Well for me i have to say yes, but my situation is a bit different in that i am Trans and Bi, so my situation with the being Trans is often pretty obvious. That said I do try to be open with all the aspects of it. Right now the media has a massive mess of misinformation and false things being thrown around about what the situations is with everyone in the "LGBTQ" grouping. I take it as a chance to educate people as much as i can about it. Often times simply knowing someone personally who is changes the persons whole perspective. As to the direct question they are asking you, That is an ice breaker and the only real answer you need to answer is yes or no. You don't have to go into any further details, you really don't have to answer at all but if you choose to you only have to say what you are comfortable with. You don't have to tell them anything about your partners, what you do in the bedroom, so on. I mean i don't think you are going to go up and ask someone and have an exchange like:

You: "Are you married?"
Them: "No I am not married yet."
You: "Oh but you are dating then?"
Them: "OH yeah and last night after dinner we went in to the bedroom and role played 50 shades of grays red room scene it was amazing... oh those whips."

Really all that needed to be said was yes :P You don't have to ever tell them you are Lesbian, it doesn't make you any less out and proud in the least. You are simply not inviting the stranger into your bedroom. It is going to feel even stranger if the state you live in does not allow same sex marriages as the answer to "are you married?" will always be no, but remember it could be no equally if you werent lesbian. In the end the bedroom element is not something you have to share, so don't. That question and those like them are simply meant as an ice breaker or conversation starter. They get asked of everyone straight or not, regardless of race, nationality, sex, gender, preferance, or whether you are a star trek or star wars. If you answer them and they probe further, simply say that you really would rather not discuss it. Work is work and if you don't want to mix the two then simply say that you really don't want to go into it. It will taper off fast. *huggles*

I am really struggling with this too. I'm fine being a lesbian, but I fear what ramifications there might be if I am out. I look at the Bible Belt states, Kansas for sure, and the open hate and bigotry from people like the Kansas governor who openly discriminates against the gay community. It is great that we can get married on Friday, but what good is that really if we can get fired from our jobs on Monday?

We have a way to go. I keep thinking some day, sexual orientation won't matter. But for now? I just say, no I am not married, but I keep on looking :-).

Most people that ask those sorts of questions at work are just trying to make small talk. My response is always to chuckle and say..."I'm married to my career." That usually shuts them up. It's a real pity that we all can't be "out & proud" but there is still too much fear out there. They fear what they don't understand.

great answers,,, nobodysbusiness and everybody cannot be the poster child for equal rights and equality i will always be forever inspired by Harvey Milk who gave his life for what freedoms we have today,,, i say ,, we all have the rights paid for by others ,, if we want to keep these rights we have to be willing to fight for them,,, at a cost for sure,,,,,, we did not come this far just like civil rights movement then repubs get in to set obamas achievements back , if GLBT take a back seat it will be all our strides too,,,, as Harvey said we cannot afford to be silent