Well there are therapists that you could go to that can help figure out what's going on. Outside of that, you just have to accept that its possible that you are Bi and just not say anything. Right now this is all you, not one person on this earth needs to know anything other than you. If you are who cares. Unless you plan to date a same sex partner, then no one is going to know. You don't end up with a brand on your forehead for this. So now the question is are you willing to accept yourself if you are or not? Ultimately if the answer is the latter, then it is going to be a rough go because generally speaking you don't just " become gay" you were for ever you just never paid any attention to it. That said it is all you right now, so no one has to know a thing

Parents will have this time of shock where it is likely they will get pissed, sad, what have you. There is an adjustment time that goes on and a process to it. so even if they got mad, it does not mean they would not accept you eventually. Before saying anything to anyone who you are not seeking advice from, figure out if you are first. then from there you can choose if and when to tell someone.

thank you

I'm feeling the same way. I was out with a co-worker one night and that weekend afterwards I got all these strange feelings and thought about her. I am told I have a 'crush" on her. So now I'm trying to figure out if I am a lesbian or not. I have been going to some Lesbian/gay meetups in the area. I even when to a MCC church. I'm not an outgoing person in the 1st place so just going to these events can be a little uncomfortable. But I have found lesbians and gay are very nice and friendly people.

I feel I need that "one kiss" to really know. Until then I haven't told any of my long time friends. I don't even know what to say to them.

I'm one to blend in so to maybe be a lesbian hard for me alone to grasp.. I never thought I would have something to make me stand out. Though, in today's' world its a little more acceptable.

well first of all they/we are human so yeah we are nice and friendly lol. but what you should do is not be so restricted by putting a lable on everything. but if u feel u must take a look at what being a pansexual is. i honestly think most HUMANS are pansexual. some ppl lean more towards what they feel is more comfortable to them. :)

When I realised that I also had feelings for the same sex I was at war with myself for years, just like you said, no problem with lgbt but cause it was me, I was determined to stop it. Then when I couldn't I had to accept it, which didn't come easy. I think you should give yourself more time to figure it out.

Any suggestions on how can better figure this out? I go to lgbt meet up events. I don't know how else to explore or figure out who i am.