Do what makes you happy and no one else. Just because you have been with guys doesn't not may you a lesbian. It could be possible that you were trying to discover who you were or identified with. There are many lesbian and gay who were previously straight some who were never straight. All that matters is what makes you happy.

thank you so much, its just such a terrible feeling when your partner tells you that she doesnt feel good enough just because ive been with guys in the past. and its not that i even wanted to be with guys, but i couldn't come out to my family and i had to try and hide it somehow

That has to be a terrible feeling. For me,I don't understand your girlfriends reasoning. Your past has nothing to do with her and It seems like she may have some self esteem issues if that is bothering her. Hugs

she does have a lot of self esteem issues. thank you so much, youve helped more than you know! hugs:)

Ive been there and if you ever need someone to talk to you can message me anytime. My family wasnt supportive at first. Now they are though and i am married now to the woman who i want to spend my life with. it gets harder sometimes before it gets better. My grandmother and i never seen eye to eye on me being a lesbian. People change as they get older i used to date guys and slept with some to try to make myself feel better and to make others happy alot of people still assume i like guys and im not a lesbian but i havent dated or been with a guy in so many years. But keep your head up and if you need anything feel free to message me!

The most important person to come out to is yourself. As long as you can find peace with being who you are, no one else's judgement is relevant. You've just got to understand who you are.

(I'm facepalming rn cause I sound like my mom lol)

Also, I've been there, done that, so if you need advice, or someone to vent to or whatever, I'm here :)

Well let's back the bus up here. "My family is not very supportive of me being a lesbian."

What are they supposed to do to support it?

You are what you are. You fancy what you fancy. It is what it is.

Nothing anyone can do, but I don't think anyone has to support you in it. Any more than you would support them in their sexuality. Everyone's sexuality is their own bag. Nobody else's business, and nobody else's problem.

Your parents love you, and need to know you and know who and what you are so that they can love you better. So you just go ahead and do your thing. But carry your own sexuality, because that's your job as an adult.

As to the GF, what is she, twelve? Send her home and date an adult.