College Stress Support Group
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I have been struggling with communicating expecially with my roommates at school. I struggle with expressing emotions other than anger and frustration and it's more so that people aren't understanding me when I talk to them if I'm having a bad day. I don't express myself the way I should and it comes off and mean, arrogant, and selfish and I can understand why they don't get where I'm coming from because I don't express myself like I should. One of my roommates thinks it's best for my mental health to leave and the other two want me to stay and get better at communicating. I could really use some advise on how I could help myself communicate better and/or what you think I should do about the roommate situation, if I should leave or stay?
my best advice would to be to force yourself to think about your feelings before you communicate with your roommates. Maybe a heads up I am in a bad mood so don't take anything personal could help them understand that whatever you say and however you say it, is not intentionally rude. I think you should stay, I think there is huge room for growth while you are going through this hard time. Eventually, you will find a way to portray your anger and frustration in a healthy manner. Maybe finding a hobby to relieve anger so that you don't take it our on your roommates could help?
Good luck!!