Characteristics of Codependency
1. My good feelings about who I am stem from being liked by you
2. My good feelings about who I am stem from receiving approval from you
3. Your struggle affects my serenity. My mental attention focuses on solving your problems/relieving your pain
4. My mental attention is focused on you
5. My mental attention is focused on protecting you
6. My mental attention is focused on manipulating you to do it my way
7. My self-esteem is bolstered by solving your problems
8. My self-esteem is bolstered by relieving your pain
9. My own hobbies/interests are put to one side.
10. The dreams I have for my future are linked to you
11. My fear of rejection determines what I say or do
12. My fear of your anger determines what I say or do
13. I use giving as a way of feeling safe in our relationship
14. The quality of my life is in relation to the quality of yours