Sorry you feel this way Mirandac. You have been a powerful contributor there. I see it as happens with many AlAnon groups: some visit, but then decide it's not for them. Many aren't ready to change quite yet. I am in a couple of groups with almost no activity. Just how it works. Hugs.

I need a break they don't and wont respond much
even if its done privately.

I feel like I do not help them with my thinking. Hugs

There are very few people that stay . A lot of posts but not much sharing we just get more new members or lurkers .

Ageee with SimpsonsOK maybe they are using the info but don’t share or are not ready for it .

Thank you both for the support and
friendship, HUGS

Mirandac, I do appreciate your insight, support and friendship. I promise to do better at posting.;-)

Thank you deja it does help having more
People That actually do work on their own
recovery. Most want to believe awareness
Alone Is enough. Its the tip of the iceberg
And i am glad to be your friend. You can
Never have too many healthy friends.

I know i had to be on bottom myself and
I Was bascially forced into alanon. My ex
was in AA and it was highly recommended
That the spouse goes to alanon.

I went For a bit and it was too much i took
a break for a month or so And i went back.
It took me a long time to get the focus on
Me not on him and he was dry our whole
Marriage. It was still an alcoholic marriage.

Codependency is such a deep issue and
Our egos keep us away from recovery even
If deep down we really know we need it,
HUGS