I used to have a good grip on what I felt was letting go of "the things I cannot change," but in my marriage I am having difficulty doing that. I don't know if it's my history of being abused, or finding out that my ex husband was secretly dating one of my friends, but I have very little trust in anyone.
My husband does have a history of lying to me. It hasn't been often but it's been enough that it fuels the fire of a disordered wayof thinking. Once it starts it's hard to let go. His stories don't make sense. His actions don't match his words. I find myself spiraling every time it happens.
It happened again today. He did something that didn't match what he originally told me and I can't stop myself from Wondering what he is really doing.
Others have told me to bring the focus back to myself and what I can control but the intensity of the emotional pull is so strong that I am almost having a panic attack.
How do you let go of things you can't control? Just thinking about other things doesn't work to distract me. My mind always comes back around to the topic I am trying to avoid until I can come to some conclusion that satisfies both my rational and irrational thoughts.
my relationship with my partner when having major conflict/ disagreement goes like this :disagreement / conflict -1) he gets angry emotionally projects and can start shouting and talk about the same issue for ages .2)il listen speak up my point until I can’t anymore and cut the phone off avoid communication and cut calls .3)he emotionally over reacts to this will bombard with phone calls...
*disclaimer: I posted this to another group, but I think it may be more suitable in this one*I cannot tell you how excited I am to find this site. It's hard to deal with difficult family members as it is, but it's especially hard when all your friends and other family members are either tired of hearing about it, or don't get it. So, long story short, my mother drives me nuts. She's extremely...