Grieving is a slow journey. Piling it up, as I did, certainly complicated things. We tend to be so busy doing for others that we have quite a pile to clear away. A journal may help as you sort them one by one. Grieving isn't a waste of time; it is a necessity. Your tears are telling you that it is time as your grief closet is overflowing. We are here for you as you continue your journey. Comforting hugs.

Well said simpson. I have had so much grief to move thru in my recovery. Its Been a long journey. Hugs

It is important to grieve to move forward. Sometimes it takes one trigger and it all comes forward I’ve been feeling a lot of it atm being triggered by my mum how emotionally unavailable and narcissistic she is , I can’t have too much empathy for her , because she’s been in denial of her trauma , she has chosen to live like this .

I try and listen to my feelings , it’s still easy to push them away when triggered especially when around toxic people .

I think grieving was the most important breakthrough moment for me in my recovery. I ended up getting therapy because a relationship had come to an end and it had left me feeling so worthless I knew I needed support. In all honesty I thought I’d have 6 sessions and be fixed, the reality was that it took 4 years. My childhood was difficult and there was a lot of stuff I felt was insignificant but my therapist felt was very significant. I didn’t like looking at the ‘blank’ memories or even know how to. I didn’t want to look at it. I reached 36 as an outwardly healthy functioning person. I could manage a stressful job, in fact 2 jobs and occasionally evening work on top, I could clean my house, my mums, look after my child and my sisters and this was all perfectly fine. I never cried until I got to therapy. Then everything changed and I cried for nearly 3-4 years. I cried in the shower, at work in the toilets (how embarrassing), in the car, in bed, as I walked the dog...I cried and cried. It was the most beautiful thing that has ever happened to me. I was grieving and it allowed all of that trapped energy in me to come out. Not many of my close friends understood what was happening but I didn’t need them to. This was my experience. Your will be different for sure. Sending you gentle hugs xx.

I was in divorce care during my
Separation and divorce and i
continued with attending afterward.
And still do help out with the
Ministry.

There You learn about grief and
The grieving process. I think i cried
for 3 years.

I had tons of detaching To do too
after the divorce. Thats When my
codependency showed Itself. I had
no idea she was still in there so deeply
and working unconsciously thru out
my marriage.

There is Still plenty of ongoing grief
in recovery as The layers come off.
I have no Fear anymore of processing
my F&E, grief or fears. Shame and abuse
Are harder to deal with and to face. A
Good therapist is a God send.

Learning to get in touch with our true
selves takes time and courage. Once
Out of denial and starting to do the
Needed work you just keep pushing
On and moving forward, HUGS