Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Nothing seems too bad. I'm beyond suffering.. I'm broken and yet I can't establish healthy boundaries.
I just endure on catastrophe after another, forever trying to hold onto my marriage. Am I happy? Rarely. But those happier times keep me clinging on.
16 years married, 3 kids. When is enough enough for us if ever? https://media.giphy.com/media/26ufaecf1f8TCqGty/giphy.gif
Afford/get one. My therapist is great about
The Bigger issues like shame, guilt, narcisism,
Abuse, abandonment, family and marriage.
Many people do like dr henry cloud books
Boundaries and another book of his is safe
people. Melodie beattie writes codependent
No more that many read and it helps them.
It took me being in alanon for awhile to Learn
and to develop stronger boundaries To keep
myself safe. I have been in alanon for 6 years.
Its all a process that takes time and There are
no easy answers to our own codependency
Issues.
Many times codependents find A narc, an
addict or an emotionally unavailable Person
for a partner and until we Heal that inner
codependent we could just find another
one or they often find us. Hugs
Being a doormat and he was dry. I have no Idea
if you have addiction issues happening In your
marriage.
In alanon the suggestion is to attend meetings
for 6 months to a year before making any new
big Changes.
Maybe with our changed behaviors, Thoughts
and actions it will improve the situation plus we
are then much stronger having had enough
Alanon and hopefully some therapy under our
Belt to make some good healthy choices just
For us.
No one will/can tell you what to do about your
Marriage that is private and personal matter
unless There is ongoing abuse.
Alanon is about making us strong and figuring
things Out and what will work best for us. Its a
self focus spiritual kind Of program, they do not
promote divorce as the only answer, Hugs
I am at the stage where I am learning to set boundaries effectively, and this applies to almost everyone I come in contact with, which is surreal if you think about it.
It has taken me 37 years to harvest and practice these unhealthy patterns (like not setting boundaries) so I am patient and I know that it will take some time for setting boundaries to become instinct. But, I do have faith it will come.
I have so many questions about your specific situation, but what I will say, and what I'm realizing is that even though you may set boundaries with those around you, that doesn't mean that they will respect them. That's happening with me, so I know I will have to re-evaluate who I surround myself with soon. This is an act of self-love, not of vengeance or carelessness but one that will only be in my best interest.
I hope that helps.