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Where is the balance of needing people,being okay with being alone and feeling lonely? Holiday's are next week and do have plans and no family and sooo feeling alone.
ladydi1961
ladydi1961
Do you have any friends living near you? i bet there are other lonely people living in your area. Maybe you could join a single's group.
I am sorry that you are so lonely! May GOD Help you!!!!!!!
Hmm I think it comes down to how we are feeling about ourselves. If we are happy and content with ourselves and ok with being by ourselves, then cool McGool. But if we are alone and feeling like a failure because we are alone and if we are taking the fact that we are alone as a reflection of our worth as a person, then there is bound to be trouble.
It is a balancing act and we are never going to get the balance exactly right, all we can do is try to get that balance. Are we alone because we want to be or because we are too scared to put ourselves out there and meet people- because we are unable to trust either ourselves or other people?
I have learned that it is ok to be on our own at times and enjoy the time we spend on our own but it is not a good idea to isolate. And if we are isolating then we need to reach out- phone a friend, join a group, get a new interest/ hobby, join a book club. And trust me, I know how hard it is to reach out at times, but 'if we keep doing what we have always done then we keep getting what we have always got'. Is there one little thing that you can change, one little different thing that you can try? Small steps are good.
Are there any support groups near you? My Al-anon group has helped me isolate less.
Hang in there, this crazy time of the year will pass... and do what you need to do to help yourself feel better. Take care :)
I see it this way there are people like me..
They also have problem initiating talk or friendship
So i take the oppurtunity to initiate talking that way it gives me an oppurtunity to get over self esteem issues.
Instead of thinking why invite they probably have plans ... i wuld rather ask and hear that no ...
I see this holidays time for gratitude ... what best way to end a year with how grateful i was for 2012
I usually assign projects for myself - scrapbook month by month for all 2012...journal all feelings while doing scrapbook.
If i need human around i go to gym, some parties around in locality, or talk to a friend and see what plans they have and if i can be part of their plans..
What stopped me before was me ... now i have several healthy options...may be meditate more..
Holidays can be over whelming .... you are not alone... its best to be alone than with dysfunction is what i always see... i love myself and spending time with self is very beautiful for me ..i am that loving :-)