I have been separated for 4 months. During the 3rd & some of the 4th month, we were "seeing" eachother. He had told me that whole time that he still loves me & I still love him with all my heart. A month or so ago, he told me that he had gone to see a movie with a female "friend". I was extremely pissed as I saw this as a date. I felt at that time though that I should confess to him that the weekend before while out at a bar, a guy had kissed me. We stopped "seeing" eachother again not long after that but not for those reasons...I couldn't handle the part time relationship because I kept feeling hurt & he said he doesn't want to hurt me any longer. I asked him a week or so after New Year's if he had dated someone on New Year's Eve. He replied that he had not but been introduced to someone & he may be interested. Last week I asked him if he has been dating. He refused to respond for awhile (this is all via text message) then finally replied "yes". Of course I flew into a frenzy out of hurt, anger & jealousy & basically told him I would sign divorce papers right that minute if I could. The next morning, he texts & tells me that because of my frenzy, I would never know the truth. I replied that by saying that he was implying he had lied. He replied that he hadn't lied, he had "embellished" the truth to test my reaction. Then he said that I had once again proven that I cant change & he never wants to be with me again. Today was our daughter's birthday & he came over for 20 minutes & had cake. When he was leaving, I asked to speak to him in the hall. I apologized for my reactions last week & told him that I still do not want a divorce. I told him that I was putting things in God's hands & that I was letting go. I also told him that because I am sorry for my actions does not mean that I condone him dating or whatever. Now....my question is...the guy that kissed me at the bar, whom I spoke to once before Christmas & explained that I want NOTHING other than friendship has called again. I dont have a lot of friends here & I would like the companionship...should I be friends with this guy or let it go. Part of me says be friends....he is doing it but another part of me thinks it may not be a good idea... need some input here.. A male friend would be nice to have...
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