Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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Went to my 1st coda meeting tonite

staceypin
staceypin
I am hoping if I keep going back it will give me some relief to wanting and needing these unavailable people, friends, family in my life!!! I get so heartbroken when they don't stay in touch or call me back. I take everything soooo dam personally and I have to realize that its not all about me!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
ahhh I feel your pain! I hope your meetings offer you some comfort. Not able to find a coda meeting around here.
You just hit me upside the head! THAT is what I am doing wanting and needing these unavail people in my life. Them not staying in touch is a real bummer!I am so over doing the chasing. I THINK!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Stacy One day at at time.... When I first started out I wanted the pain, hurt and other feelings to go away!! What has really been working for me is working the steps like rituals, reciting the positive affirmations, goal setting and 2 to three meetings a week or more if necessary. Codependency is more with our thinking and I have found that changing my thought pattern has helped also ... I am feel 85% better than I did a two weeks ago. The process does work just keep going back and keep taking care of yourself and you will be fine. Good luck
deleted_user
deleted_user
I haven a recovering alcoholic for a husabnd and a addict for a daughter and what I have just discovered in this very moment after reading your posts is although my life may be on a rollercoaster ride .
The rooms and meetings I attend are very faithful, never once have I not felt embraced or cared about so I guess the point is the addicts have their tools and we are given ours but they aren't useful if we don't use them.
Keep going back to your meetings, embrace the constant because if thats all you have for the day it's enough and tomorrow will come even when we feel like just sleeping through it.
This process is not easy .
"Living one day at a time enjoying one moment at a time. Accepting hardships as the pathways to peace". I think its about time I learn and memorize that part