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Website - The cause of addiction.

Booky
Booky
This is a fascinating article in the Huffington Post, June 20, 2015

Link here = http://www.huffingtonpost.com/johann-hari/the-real-cause-of-addicti_b_6506936.html


QUOTE: "So the opposite of addiction is not sobriety. It is human connection."


I find what it is telling to be revolutionary.
alightcap35a
alightcap35a
"You can only keep what you have by giving it away."
Booky
Booky
Follow-up:

Many times a spouse will tell their other spouse to choose = The booze or me? the drugs or me? either you stop or I go.

And many times the spouse will give up their addiction and take the relationship instead.

THAT is the point of the link article.

Near 30 years ago there was a very strict Church group which I wanted to join, but I knew that I could not hide my smoking so it took me a year of hard effort to quit smoking and then I went to that Church.

That wanting for that human connection is what broke my severest addiction, and nothing has ever been so hard for me to clean up then was the smoking of cigarettes.

So I say it is true, that an addict does not really need sobriety, as we each just need some human connection which will over rule the addiction and then the sobriety is just the after effect.
Bal01
Bal01
Thanks for the article, Booky.

I find this one very useful:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_KTqCmajPGk
DeliAnnem
DeliAnnem
True, Booky. But it mentions at the end that to shun the person will not help, yet you said that giving the ultimatum MADE you chose the people over the drug...

I still think you can love the sinner without tolerating the sin.

I am currently writing a book on the powers of affection. I am collecting articles/research about the topic and I will definitely add this link to my citations. It's not scientific, but still very powerful.

Thanks!