Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hello,
So i was raised by a narcissitic mother... not a fun experience and would not reccommend btw... anyways i am at the point of recovery where i am understanding my emotions. I feel happiness and peace from inside of me yet I'm scared of it. I'm so brainwashed to take care of my mother's needs that i don't even know my own emotions. Knowing that i am at a point of knowing my emotions it feels like it's going to get stolen away from me. I am however really grateful that god has been here for me and i have depended on him for alot of the healing process. Also my good friend who i am blessed to have in my life has pointed out my mother's abusive behavior which saved me a crap ton of energy tring to figure it out myself. I feel incredibly blessed though... I have been through some though things but I have faith that god is going to get me through this.... However getting to know my emotions is a scary process. The fact that i can be happy without accomadating to someone else's need is really mindblowing. However feel free to share your stories... or if you are farther along in this process please help someone who is just stepping into their own emotions...
Welcome here to this group.
Getting to know our feelings and emotions was super fun for me, along with being so interesting and enlightening, and so it might seem scary at first but if you do it correctly then it will become the very opposite of scary.
Here is a link which puts the feelings and emotions into very easy to understand terms:
= https://independentfew.wordpress.com/2015/09/22/the-eight-8-feelings-emotions-and-rage/
A lot of people lose their faith in God or else we have it so violated from childhood that it is hard to reconnect without the old untrue baggage, so I say you appear to have that one big advantage in your favor.
The very best of boundaries - IMO - are based on our relationship to God because God tells us how to be merciful and teaches us right from wrong - from which the best boundaries are made.
For me it was my mother too who was the problem, and in time I figured out that she too was abused as a child and she was damaged herself and she passed that onto her own children.
Take care.
James
feelings and emotions and i can Sit
in them and stand them”
They are often hard to sit in, it takes
time and recovery work. I embrace
my healthy anger It propels change
and growth,
1. Healthy anger means observing and experiencing anger without being overwhelmed by it and reacting to it.
2. Healthy anger means recognizing our anger as a signal to explore the feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations that precede it.
3. Healthy anger means viewing anger as a signal to direct our attention inward to identify our core desires, needs, and values.
4. Healthy anger calls for developing self-compassion, which includes skills to enhance our sense of safety and connection.
5. Healthy anger includes developing strategies to let go of anger, which may include forgiving others and yourself.
6. Healthy anger encompasses compassionate practices that don’t cause suffering for others or for ourselves.
7. Healthy anger means learning how to communicate assertively with others.
8. Healthy anger enhances our resilience and overall well-being.