Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
argh...Codependency go away...I am so tired of being controlled by you!
I've been doing alot of self work lately. Reading anything i can get my hands on..learning alot about my patterns, my history, things i can do for my recovery etc. Been getting more sleep, working out in the gym, hitting up craft stores (my hobby) all in the name of putting ME on my best friend's list for a change. And with every good thing that I am doing, it doesn't take much for that one thing, that one moment, that one person to trigger all those insecurities, press all those wounded inner child buttons and drag me right back to zero again.
Lost my Mom last year, so all my insecurity buttons about losing people close to me in my life buttons are on red alert. Now the girl I have been friends with and in and out of a online relationship with has found another and moved on from me. She still talks to me and as i put it, "gives me scraps" and as desperate as I am to NOT lose yet another person in my life, I accept it. But each time i see them together, it's like dying a slow death. Her gf has this charismatic personality and just wins over everyone, so all of those who were close to me before, through my friend etc, are won over by her as well and i find myself on the outside looking in. I know in the big picture, that her moving ahead without me is probably just gonna open the door for me to find that special person who truly appreciates me, but in the meantime, I am hurting bad. I want to move forward, but miss her and our relationship so much. I tried talking to her about things and she just told me I was blowing things out of proportion, that she didnt want to discuss this new person and that we were "fine" but i don't feel fine. I miss my g/f...i miss my friend..and I am scared to death of losing yet another person in my life.
I know i have alot more self work to do. I am seeking out CODA groups and want to find a good psychologist and grief counselor as well. Everyone tells me to leave her behind, but i am not in that place yet..so how do i transition through all of this? Thanks for letting me vent.
I've been doing alot of self work lately. Reading anything i can get my hands on..learning alot about my patterns, my history, things i can do for my recovery etc. Been getting more sleep, working out in the gym, hitting up craft stores (my hobby) all in the name of putting ME on my best friend's list for a change. And with every good thing that I am doing, it doesn't take much for that one thing, that one moment, that one person to trigger all those insecurities, press all those wounded inner child buttons and drag me right back to zero again.
Lost my Mom last year, so all my insecurity buttons about losing people close to me in my life buttons are on red alert. Now the girl I have been friends with and in and out of a online relationship with has found another and moved on from me. She still talks to me and as i put it, "gives me scraps" and as desperate as I am to NOT lose yet another person in my life, I accept it. But each time i see them together, it's like dying a slow death. Her gf has this charismatic personality and just wins over everyone, so all of those who were close to me before, through my friend etc, are won over by her as well and i find myself on the outside looking in. I know in the big picture, that her moving ahead without me is probably just gonna open the door for me to find that special person who truly appreciates me, but in the meantime, I am hurting bad. I want to move forward, but miss her and our relationship so much. I tried talking to her about things and she just told me I was blowing things out of proportion, that she didnt want to discuss this new person and that we were "fine" but i don't feel fine. I miss my g/f...i miss my friend..and I am scared to death of losing yet another person in my life.
I know i have alot more self work to do. I am seeking out CODA groups and want to find a good psychologist and grief counselor as well. Everyone tells me to leave her behind, but i am not in that place yet..so how do i transition through all of this? Thanks for letting me vent.
I used to write her letters to vent. Then i would throw them away, they had done their purpose. She doesn't need to know how you feel. It wont get her back. Being a strong, confident woman will give you the control over you you think she has. Jeez, I sound like a girl!
Have a great day!