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Hi all-
I found this poem. I'm trying to give myself a pep talk to keep going. I thought I'd share. Have a good week.
The Quitter
by Edgar A. Guest
Fate handed the quitter a bump, and he dropped
The road seemed too rough to go, so he stopped
He thought of his hurt, and there came to his mind
The easier path he was leaving behind
It's all much too hard, said the quitter right then
I'll stop where I am and not try it again
He sat by the road and he made up his tale
To tell when men asked why he happened to fail
A thousand excuses flew up to his tongue
And these on the thread of his story he strung
But the truth of the matter he didn't admit
He never once said, I was frightened and quit
Whenever the quitter sits down by the road
And drops from the struggle to lighten his load
He can always recall to his own peace of mind
A string of excuses for falling behind
But somehow or other he can't think of one
Good reason for battling and going right on
So, when the bump comes and fate hands you a jar
Don't baby yourself, boy, whoever you are
Don't pity yourself and talk over your woes
Don't think up excuses for dodging the blows
But stick to the battle and see the thing through
And don't be a quitter, whatever you do.
I found this poem. I'm trying to give myself a pep talk to keep going. I thought I'd share. Have a good week.
The Quitter
by Edgar A. Guest
Fate handed the quitter a bump, and he dropped
The road seemed too rough to go, so he stopped
He thought of his hurt, and there came to his mind
The easier path he was leaving behind
It's all much too hard, said the quitter right then
I'll stop where I am and not try it again
He sat by the road and he made up his tale
To tell when men asked why he happened to fail
A thousand excuses flew up to his tongue
And these on the thread of his story he strung
But the truth of the matter he didn't admit
He never once said, I was frightened and quit
Whenever the quitter sits down by the road
And drops from the struggle to lighten his load
He can always recall to his own peace of mind
A string of excuses for falling behind
But somehow or other he can't think of one
Good reason for battling and going right on
So, when the bump comes and fate hands you a jar
Don't baby yourself, boy, whoever you are
Don't pity yourself and talk over your woes
Don't think up excuses for dodging the blows
But stick to the battle and see the thing through
And don't be a quitter, whatever you do.
Today, I know that my recovery program gives me the wisdom to know what I can change (my own attitudes and perceptions) and what I cannot change (other people, their addictions and unhealthy behaviors). I know today that my codependency, if untreated, will seduce me into staying in harmful situations too long. Loving myself allows me to "quit" harmful experiences before they can damage me. I am proud today of my ability to say "I quit" when its in my best interests to do so.
thank you for this reminder of my ability to make "u" turns today!
God grant me the serenity
to accept the things I cannot change;
courage to change the things I can;
and wisdom to know the difference.
For me, the poem's message isn't complex. It's pretty simple. It just means not quit if you have bumps in the road. Sometimes it's hard to make changes or stand up for yourself; whether you're finding it hard to get out of a bad marriage or relationship, or you're finding it hard to maintain boundaries or change your life.....for me it means, don't quit at whatever your dreams/goals are....just persevere.
Thanks again!!!
I loved also the way I see my progress in recovery, from using the notion of perseverance to keep me in a dangerous place, to the use of perseverance to keep me in a marriage in which I still have hope and see progress.
Thanks to all of you for sharing your thoughts and to you, Maggie, for being a catalyst for discussion with your post.