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Hi All,
In an older post I talked about how faith in God makes my life easier. It means I know that God is always with me and whatever happens he will always help me. Therefore, I don't need to worry because I know everything will be okay and is okay.
I've got to like a girl very much lately but she lives far away from me. I miss her a lot and I sometimes feel insecure, I fear of losing her, or her dumping me.
I realized that there is no point being afraid of this until it actually happens. Until then all I need to do is trust her. Just like I trust God. I trust that she loves me too and she's there for me and thinks of me, even if we don't talk every day.
What I find very interesting is the similarity of trusting God and trusting my partner. It opens up a whole new dimension to me, something completely new! I'll practice this thing. I think it helps me feel more secure and happy.
I just wanted to share this hoping someone has similar experience and that it might help others.
I love this idea!
Have a nice day! :)
In an older post I talked about how faith in God makes my life easier. It means I know that God is always with me and whatever happens he will always help me. Therefore, I don't need to worry because I know everything will be okay and is okay.
I've got to like a girl very much lately but she lives far away from me. I miss her a lot and I sometimes feel insecure, I fear of losing her, or her dumping me.
I realized that there is no point being afraid of this until it actually happens. Until then all I need to do is trust her. Just like I trust God. I trust that she loves me too and she's there for me and thinks of me, even if we don't talk every day.
What I find very interesting is the similarity of trusting God and trusting my partner. It opens up a whole new dimension to me, something completely new! I'll practice this thing. I think it helps me feel more secure and happy.
I just wanted to share this hoping someone has similar experience and that it might help others.
I love this idea!
Have a nice day! :)
Are you sure you are "trusting" her, or rather, giving up control and trusting YOURSELF that you'll be okay no matter what?
Think about it...
Hugs.
But I'm definitely not elevating her to God.
Thanks for the thought ;)
It troubles me trying to equate trust for God with trust for a partner.
Wives and husbands come and go, so do BFs and GFs, and God is not on the same level as any person.
When I am single then I can do lots of things for my religion (for God) as like volunteering to help the needy and giving money to people in need, but when I am in a relationship with a woman then I give more attention to the girl, and then there is less time or energy for what I would give to God.
When I was much younger then I cared less, but now that I am older and I have better boundaries then now I only want a GF who will not get between me and God.
I do not even like the idea of giving too much trust to the partner because people will often let us down, and my higher trust in God is what gives me the foundation to be a better man to my Lady.
So I think this might be similar to what DeliA said above - that we must not let the girl be treated as we would treat God or like a God.
When we trust God then it matters far less about trusting other people, because it is hard for people to live up to our trust.
Just me talking here - peace.