Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hi everybody... I am here because I am tired of trying to change. I already had depression, I have done therapy. It worked for me but then I stopped, sessions are too expensive. I started working and it seemed everything was ok. Until...I had to deal with critics in my job, people humiliate me in my job and I always stay quiet, I never answer and when I come home I start crying, I get depressive...yesterday I was bad, I was like I had no feelings and nothing really cared for me.It's not the first time I get angry with situations in my job, cause people do and say what they want and I don't do anything to protect mysef. I thought abou becoming a really serious person, it would be the only way to really be ready to these situations but my boyfriend disagree. He thinks I should only be serious in the right moment. I am so tired of carying too much abou people's opinion, because they can always hurt me. My boyfriend told me to go to the doctor or to the church I like (he doesn't like but he supports me if it will help me). But the point is:
- I am ashame of going to the doctor (it's the second time I go)
-Sometimes I believe nothing will work to me, not even church...
thanks for reading me guys. I am open to anything that can help me.
- I am ashame of going to the doctor (it's the second time I go)
-Sometimes I believe nothing will work to me, not even church...
thanks for reading me guys. I am open to anything that can help me.
I don't know anything about you, but if you need the help then I encourage you to go for it. You are worth it and you deserve it. Find a therapist that offers a sliding scale fee and would require you to pay less based on what you make. You can even find a 12-step group related to your needs, which are free. Something will work for you, keep trying. It doesn't matter how many times you've gone, it's so great that you're trying!! Big hugs!
You need to find a way to put the remarks from others back onto them. When they criticize you - say something like, "that's interesting" or something crazy like that - they won't know what to say. You're putting it back on them. Or "hmm" and that's it. My therapist taught me to do that. You need to begin to tell yourself things like: I am worthy, lovable, valuable, special, funny, silly, etc. every day. You need to become your own best friend. There are lots of places that offer therapy that would be more than willing to work with you if you let them know you can't afford their prices. You can make phone calls and ask. You can do this - because you're worth it!
You may not feel it - but trust me - you are doing so well, and being so brave!
The fact that you are opening up to your feelings, even though they maybe overpowering and angry is VERY POSITIVE. Reach out for support, ask for as much help as you need. YOU DESERVE IT!
Big Hug
Oh and remember we are all in the same boat, so we feel for what your going through. You will get there - take care of yourself; give yourself the massive amount of care you give others. Now's the time to turn the focus of care onto yourself. Everyone else can take care of themselves.
It is a difficult road, but a rewarding one.
So pull up a chair and get comfy.
We are all here for you!