Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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HopeforUsToday
HopeforUsToday
I ralized last Sunday, when I was completely exhausted, that I was doing too much caretaking. This Sunday I made the decision to help out, without the resentments, without having to do it all. This way I am not exhausted. But I can see how hard it is to want to fix everything that my loved one is going though. I want to fix it but I have limitations. I am not a superhero and I get resentful when I take on others' problems.
deleted_user
deleted_user
It is so hard to not take on things that no one asks you to...it feels like everyone wants you to or expects you to and when you do not do it...either you feel like crap about it or they say/do something that inspires those bad feelings in us. Yesterday was supposed to be a "united effort" to clean the house. My husband said he didn't feel like it and was gonna put it off til today. Well...yesterday I said that I would do it, like I ALWAYS do...and then 30 minutes later (we weren't home)...I caught myself and said..NO, I won't. I will wait until tomorrow and we can all do it together. ..


Baby steps...baby steps.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh boy I recognise this one.... My mantra would be Hubby goes to work I DO EVERYTHING ELSE!! I had a guilt complex for being a stay at home mum, trying to make hubbies life as easy as possible. When my son became severely disabled after an RTA I carried on with this, like it was just another thing for me to do. I should be wearing a straight jacket instead of the superhero cape! I too am learning to loosen the reigns and allow others to do their fair share. I slipped a disc and had no choice but perhaps something good came out of it. I don't have to BE everything or DO everything.
I hope you can keep your peace in doing enough but letting go of the rest. x
hbgdaystar
hbgdaystar
CONTROLLING is my major Issue. Even today Its so hard to say NO and when NO is said it feels like Crap.... Ah well learning learning to feel less crapier :-).