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I think i may have post traumatic disorder due to shock from events related to addiction and co-addiction. I get so nervous or alert whenever i face my boss. Or.somebody suddenly screams or calls my attention. I have a feeling i need to consider therapy seriously. But my problem now is i currently cannot afford it yet and time. Yet time is workable.
I just wanna let my feelings out. I was crying hard a while ago because im scared and worried and angry too most of all at myself because i think im letting myself be affected by this recent detachment adjustment or should i say unconventional relationship.. or sudden disconnection with my recovering addict. Its really so hard to accept because i couldnt understand his reasons.
At work i find it sooo hard to focus and really concentrate. It takes a while for me to get moving with a task. Esp when it imvolves alot of idea generation activities.. its so hard to focus. My time is eaten up by surfing for readings to help.me try to undertsand myself and the addict. Now. My work is suffering. My boss talked to me earlier and i think she is very bothered. Though i really wanted more guidance. Most of the time she is too busy.. and shes got so high expectations from me.
any advice.. i need to calm and be more serene.. i feel like all the world is falling apart.
I just wanna let my feelings out. I was crying hard a while ago because im scared and worried and angry too most of all at myself because i think im letting myself be affected by this recent detachment adjustment or should i say unconventional relationship.. or sudden disconnection with my recovering addict. Its really so hard to accept because i couldnt understand his reasons.
At work i find it sooo hard to focus and really concentrate. It takes a while for me to get moving with a task. Esp when it imvolves alot of idea generation activities.. its so hard to focus. My time is eaten up by surfing for readings to help.me try to undertsand myself and the addict. Now. My work is suffering. My boss talked to me earlier and i think she is very bothered. Though i really wanted more guidance. Most of the time she is too busy.. and shes got so high expectations from me.
any advice.. i need to calm and be more serene.. i feel like all the world is falling apart.
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Welcome.
I have empathy for what you're saying. In my case, I have too many work responsibilities and travel too often to talk to somebody regularly.
First of all, you should congratulate yourself for the progress you have made so far. Millions of people around the world are struggling and never get the nerve to seek help at all. I don't mean that to say that you're done, but you *are* making progress. I hope you are happy with that.
Given that you feel like you need more support, you may consider low/no-cost outlets. If you're religious, for example, there may be someone to whom you could speak at your place of worship. Others may include groups like CoDA and similar support systems. These people will not necessarily have "answers," but sometimes it helps just to know that others understand how you feel.
Lastly, I would invite you to let yourself off the hook. It is absolutely ok and normal to be upset and angry about a breakup, even if the breakup was with someone who was no good for you. Someday, it is likely that you will be grateful for the fact that you are not burdened by your relationship with your RG. That day, however, does not have to be today. Mourn your loss, but be mindful that you need to put it aside and move forward eventually. To paraphrase a somewhat silly quote, life is not about how hard you can hit someone, but it is about how hard you can get hit by someone and keep moving forward.
Good luck to you.
Been feeling down.. its like a very cold world and life. I wish life were easier and less complicated. Why does corporate work need to be too demanding? Im.not doing well and im threatened and afraid of my boss' assesament of me. Yet id ont want to have to prove myself.. i mean does it have to be like that. Survival of the fittest. Feeling very tired from overworking yet the work is not yet done. I hate the feeling of inadequacy and i have a boss who has high expectations. When will the challenges end? Im so scared