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i wrote this aFeeling so disconnected to others. Even a touch from others seems weird. I am just so empty and want to be close to others but dont know how. Its like I am a ship without and anchor. Dreamed that I walked into a beautiful mountain place and then it turned into a columns of things falling around me and catching on fire. How do I get ok and enjoy life? Stop drinking and jump into life and meeting and being close to others and accepting them and me as I am. I am frozen in time and with someone that I dont like. I know that I can do this but a leap of faith is so hard and scarey. Its like I am shell of a person that cant move on toward what I need to do. Have isolated my self to the point that I cant relate or enjoy my life. Cant stand my so and am so irritable and unable to recognized the blessings and opportunities that I have. Need to be touched but no trust in the one I live with. Cant even talk to him as everything is used against me and gosh has to be more to life.
Take control of your life with help of God and get out of this prison and spring free
He and I mask the life we live with alcohol and denial and he is making me feel crazy and confused. He talk about others with a vengeance that is hard to deal with. It so weird to trust someone or try to trust one that is so unavailable and I am also so unavailable
year ago- what a revelation still in the same place
Take control of your life with help of God and get out of this prison and spring free
He and I mask the life we live with alcohol and denial and he is making me feel crazy and confused. He talk about others with a vengeance that is hard to deal with. It so weird to trust someone or try to trust one that is so unavailable and I am also so unavailable
year ago- what a revelation still in the same place
I believe that we all must be our own advocate. You must be good to you in your own mind, forgive your failures, and keep on trying.
God Bless you and give you strength.
Dont tell me that you didn't progress a single time single instance in your whole 1 year journey?
At least i have seen some progress here on DS.
Dont take all of your inventory like you need to do all the laundry right now... Take a little bit at a time and work at it .. You can do it...
Dont loose hope and dont let your inner critic get at you.. You are more valuable to you than ypu think..
Alcohol will not solve any problems at least i learnt that early in my childhood.
Intimacy issues are normal with Adult child ... Only when empathy channel is open can real intimacy exist... Try to go to an ACA or CODA meetings or seek therapy..
You have made a lot of changes. Sometimes it takes a while for them to filter through to the really tough ones. The situation with your SO is a bit more complicated, it is going to take more time. I think it is easier to set boundaries and change our behaviour with people when we don't live with them, at least that is my experience, at least when we are starting to try out new behaviours. It is a bit more challenging when they are always there. Give yourself time.
And give yourself credit for how far you have come this year. If anything, the way you have been handling your family situation can give you more confidence to deal here, you have been working your way through it with them, you will work your way through with him too. It is all a process. One bit at a time...