Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
A bit of background: I come from a long line of co-dependents/alcoholics/bi-polar/schizophrenic/BPD/you name its...I'm sure it's all there in my family somewhere and I'm sure it's been passed down to me.
I've been through therapy several times throughout my life, some of which actually helped. What has helped me the most is taking part of what I learned from the good therapists, part of what I've learned from reading, part of what I learned from Al-Anon and part of what I've gained from discussion groups online. It's all been valuable in giving me strength and hope, but I feel it's time for some CBT.
I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia about 8 years ago and more recently with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and degenerative disk disease. I've always been a "doer" as I equated DOING to BEING. My mother's favorite phrase was 'do this like a good girl' and in my mind it meant if I didn't DO I was BAD!
Fast forward to present...I married a very sweet, loving man who has clear signs of BPD. Not all that much of an issue in itself as we are actually good for each other 99% of the time. The 1% can be disastrous if I'm depressed from my physical ailments. Taking anti-depressants hasn't worked for me as they give me a general feeling of apathy. I love life and the wondrous gifts that God has graciously entrusted us with. I'm happy and grateful to be alive~~most of the time.
I'm hoping that CBT is going to be helpful in handling the acute depressive symptoms that have plagued me recently.
Have any of you tried CBT and if so, would you share with me how it has helped you?
I've been through therapy several times throughout my life, some of which actually helped. What has helped me the most is taking part of what I learned from the good therapists, part of what I've learned from reading, part of what I learned from Al-Anon and part of what I've gained from discussion groups online. It's all been valuable in giving me strength and hope, but I feel it's time for some CBT.
I was diagnosed with fibromyalgia about 8 years ago and more recently with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and degenerative disk disease. I've always been a "doer" as I equated DOING to BEING. My mother's favorite phrase was 'do this like a good girl' and in my mind it meant if I didn't DO I was BAD!
Fast forward to present...I married a very sweet, loving man who has clear signs of BPD. Not all that much of an issue in itself as we are actually good for each other 99% of the time. The 1% can be disastrous if I'm depressed from my physical ailments. Taking anti-depressants hasn't worked for me as they give me a general feeling of apathy. I love life and the wondrous gifts that God has graciously entrusted us with. I'm happy and grateful to be alive~~most of the time.
I'm hoping that CBT is going to be helpful in handling the acute depressive symptoms that have plagued me recently.
Have any of you tried CBT and if so, would you share with me how it has helped you?
I think its great your doing therapy as well as reading and going to support groups. You sound as though you really want to get a handle on your problems. I wish you the best of luck, in your relationship as well. I feel like 1% is normal for couples to have problems, with therapy and the other measured your trying, I think that 1% will become less disastrous.
(((Hugs)))