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wow sounds like my story.. she may be planning something behind your back.. i feel the same. mostly helpless, not knowing what she is going to do tomorrow. i am trying to seek help to see what i can do myself in this situation,,,

Take her out to dinner, get a few drinks in her. Wine her, dine her, give her some attention.

After a few drinks she'll tell you. She's probably lonely, she's probably unhappy. It may take a bit to tell you what's wrong.

And here's the thing (speaking from my position) - I carried a lot of guilt in my marriage because I had anxiety and didn't know it. I desperately needed to tell my husband stuff about me, and have him hear it and say it was okay. But from his point of view he considered any word I spoke to be a complaint about him personally. And he blocked everything. He would not ever let me tell him what was wrong.

I could never show him I wasn't mad at him, he sort of grabbed that hat and jammed it on his head so fast it wasn't funy. He certaily never took me out to diner or gave me any reason to believe ever that I would be heard without complaint or resentment.... so I remained silent, distraught, anxious, like a second class citizen till the last year of our marriage, when I became suicidal, and then I became allergic to a lot of things.

I wish I could have the marriage back. I was very fond of him. I feel broken alone. Still broken after 7 yrs. I've done a lot for myself personallly that would not have happened together with him, but I do wish I could be part of a marriage again, and I did love him. I just really didn't (and on the facts still don't) think he loved me at all.

anyway Take her out to dinner. Be the bigger man. Even if all you can pay for is fish and chips by the lake, do it. Time alone together with her. Some good time maybe. Take her out bumper car driving. Or go-karting. Or quad bike riding. Heck I love quad bike riding.

Get some reconnect.

:)

same with my fiancé. I haven't been happy for years. I'm getting to the point of no return. we have a 2 year old daughter too. maybe you could send her an email of exactly how you feel. this way she can sit and read it, also no interrupting. if there's an elephant in the room, address it in the email. I feel like I need to do the same thing because my fiancé won't talk to me. communication is his and his family's kryptonite. my family talks too much I guess. but we're total opposites and I feel like we were both lonely at the time and just settled. told each other "you'll do".

We talked about it and it helped. But I still get triggered when she comes home in a bad mood or doesn't want to talk. I'm more needy clearly in the relationship and that divide is a large one.

hi there enfield,I just read your thing about working alone from home; so you get no interaction, and she gets heaps.

I get heaps of interaction, and when I come home I need to unwind, I can't absorb. When my daughter was home, she would chatter to me and I couldn't absorb a word. I didn't want to hurt her feelings or shut her up, she was my baby - but if she'd been someone else I might have just tried to go hide. ? If I'd had to reply at all, that would have been hard. If I had had to give emotionally to someone who needed me emotionally? Well, i rescued a dog for a while and I sent it on to the SPCA because it was too needy.

She can't fill you. Maybe you can change your job in some way so that you can be more full yourself when she gets home? You need to find your own social life, somehow, and be her equal. Right now you are in a subordinate role with her. That's why you're needy. It's not your personality; it's your environment and dynamic structure.

Look at where everyone's placed on the chess board of life. It sticks out like dogs bollocks. :)