Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Recovery Checklist from eElody Beattie's Beyond Codepency
Look over checklist to determine your strengths and weaknesses in recovery and for setting recovery goals.
*Maintaining appropriate daily routine
*Setting & achieving daily and long-term goals
*Personal care
*Setting and sticking to limts with children and others
*Appropriate decision-making and problem-solving efforts
*Choosing behaviors
*Well-rested
*Resentment-free
*Accepting (versus denying)
*Not controlling others nor feeling controlled by them
*Open to appropriate criticism of self & others
*Free of excessive criticism of self & others
*Gratitude versus self-pity and depriviation
*Responsible financial decisions (not over- or underspending)
*Self-responsibility (versus scapegoating and blaming)
*Valuing wants & needs
*Free of victim self-image
*Free of fear & anxiety
*Free of guilt & shame
*Free of worry & obsession
*Not feeling excessively responsible for others
*Faith in Higher Power
*Trusting and valuing self
*Making appropriate decisions about trusting others
*Maintaining recovery routine (attending support groups, et cetera)
*Mind clear & peaceful; logical thinking; free of confusion
*Feeling and dealing appropriately w/ feelings, including anger
*Appropriate disclosing
*Reasonable expectations of self & others
*Needing people versus NEEDING them
*Feeling secure with self; self-affirming
*Communicating clearly, directly & honestly
*Balanced mood
*Maintaining contact w/ friends
*Feeling connected & close to people versus lonely & isolated
*Healthy perspective; life looks worth living
*Not using alcohol and medication to cope
*Having fun, relaxing during leisure activities, enjoying daily routine
*Giving appropriate positie feedback to self & others
*Getting - and allowing self to believe - positive feedback
Look over checklist to determine your strengths and weaknesses in recovery and for setting recovery goals.
*Maintaining appropriate daily routine
*Setting & achieving daily and long-term goals
*Personal care
*Setting and sticking to limts with children and others
*Appropriate decision-making and problem-solving efforts
*Choosing behaviors
*Well-rested
*Resentment-free
*Accepting (versus denying)
*Not controlling others nor feeling controlled by them
*Open to appropriate criticism of self & others
*Free of excessive criticism of self & others
*Gratitude versus self-pity and depriviation
*Responsible financial decisions (not over- or underspending)
*Self-responsibility (versus scapegoating and blaming)
*Valuing wants & needs
*Free of victim self-image
*Free of fear & anxiety
*Free of guilt & shame
*Free of worry & obsession
*Not feeling excessively responsible for others
*Faith in Higher Power
*Trusting and valuing self
*Making appropriate decisions about trusting others
*Maintaining recovery routine (attending support groups, et cetera)
*Mind clear & peaceful; logical thinking; free of confusion
*Feeling and dealing appropriately w/ feelings, including anger
*Appropriate disclosing
*Reasonable expectations of self & others
*Needing people versus NEEDING them
*Feeling secure with self; self-affirming
*Communicating clearly, directly & honestly
*Balanced mood
*Maintaining contact w/ friends
*Feeling connected & close to people versus lonely & isolated
*Healthy perspective; life looks worth living
*Not using alcohol and medication to cope
*Having fun, relaxing during leisure activities, enjoying daily routine
*Giving appropriate positie feedback to self & others
*Getting - and allowing self to believe - positive feedback
it's so easy to slip into the old ways or feel insecure about making decisions based on who we were before we started recovery!
xo
Yes I find this really helpful, especially when I apply them to my present day situation, and see I have a ways to go.