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well here is a question that would love some responses from u all concerning my nephew who will not do anything to help me around the house and has been rude when I asked him for help with things I can't do,
he does not work and has PTSD from Iraq, anyway he says, seems like he is using the government to support him for the rest of his life.
anyway he has moved into my sisters house and the electric bill is in my name. she said that he said that he would get it in his name after xmas.
none of this extended family of mine made an effort to come to my house to even get the presents that I got their kids. my son was here for 1 week. no one came. my daughter and family were here and no one came. my sister did not come to see them. but partied on as usual.
my children don't care really and expect no more from these people.
so the very last day my sister could have come she texts me that her grand daughter is sick and cant get by. I texted back- none of us are surprised that u did not make it by.
I am done with these people. done with buying the kids presents at xmas. my sister has never bought my grandkids presents.
so I am sure that many of u all have similar family situations and stories.
but this is the question- do I tell him to get the electric out of my name? I am not real worried about getting stuck with the bill. but resent helping the prick at all. if I ask him to get it out of my name they will call me selfish and stingy. I really want to do this to make a point. but is it worth the bad feeling that it will stir up? not sure
he does not work and has PTSD from Iraq, anyway he says, seems like he is using the government to support him for the rest of his life.
anyway he has moved into my sisters house and the electric bill is in my name. she said that he said that he would get it in his name after xmas.
none of this extended family of mine made an effort to come to my house to even get the presents that I got their kids. my son was here for 1 week. no one came. my daughter and family were here and no one came. my sister did not come to see them. but partied on as usual.
my children don't care really and expect no more from these people.
so the very last day my sister could have come she texts me that her grand daughter is sick and cant get by. I texted back- none of us are surprised that u did not make it by.
I am done with these people. done with buying the kids presents at xmas. my sister has never bought my grandkids presents.
so I am sure that many of u all have similar family situations and stories.
but this is the question- do I tell him to get the electric out of my name? I am not real worried about getting stuck with the bill. but resent helping the prick at all. if I ask him to get it out of my name they will call me selfish and stingy. I really want to do this to make a point. but is it worth the bad feeling that it will stir up? not sure
It sounds like you have had it to *here* with the craziness of your family, and I don't blame you AT ALL for feeling the way you do!
Walk away *with love*. You must take care of yourself and your needs in life FIRST. You can (and IMHO, you should) take your name of that electric bill. The decision is yours, and yours alone, and if the rest of the family gets all bent out of shape about it and mad, just tell them the truth. You don't owe them any in depth explanation---just tell them something like you are "tightening your financial belt" so to speak, and want to start putting $$ away for the future, or whatever......hope that makes sense, Sassy...what's in my head sometimes doesn't make sense when I'm writing it out! ;)
Love yourself, Sassy~you're worth it!
Mary in Mich