Hello all- I am new here and a little nervous about opening up. I have been married almost 6years. My husband left a month and a half ago. I have been told by a counselor that I should look into codependency. The concept is mind blowing. I (and all of my closest friends) considered me strong willed, outspoken and funny. Since being married- I have become none of those things. My husband suffered from depression and low self esteem. I knew this going in, but thought MY love could fix it. Of course it didn't. I seemed to have lost my self trying to change everything to make him feel loved- only it never did. Now he has left and divorce papers have been filed. I'm beside myself with grief. I know I've worn my friends out with going on and on about it, but it has consumed me. My husband has left me multiple times during this marriage, mostly when I stood my ground. He constantly accused me of cheating, went through my phone, called multiple times daily, the list goes on. People tell me I should be glad he's gone, yet it's like I'm addicted to him. This is not the "me" I thought I was!! What happened to ME???