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converseoleander
converseoleander
So, I like talking to friends at night, on the phone but I get really lonely at night. How can I make it easier for me to get off the phone when the other person wants instead of being like '20 mins more, pleeeaase'

And then not just easier at night getting off the phone but anytime, it's really hard for me to be alone, but ecspecially at night.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Today think about things you can do to prepare for tonight. Mkae plans as if you were going on a date with yourself tonight, OK that might be a little Korny but the plan is to make a plan. What have you been thinking about doing someday, IE; read a certain book, watch a certain movie, organize a closet or photos. How do you feel about puzzles and word game books? What hobbies do you have? What hobbies do you WANT to have?
I think you are afraid of yourself and I will bet if you spend a little time getting to know yourself, you will find out you are a pertty nice person.

God Bless.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I know just how you feel. I just like talking. Getting outside affirmation of my thoughts is like validation for me. As if just forming the opinion is not enough, I have to verbalize it. If you are the same and just want your words out there and to get responses for them. Maybe you should try blogging or vlogging (video blogging) This way you do not feel like you are putting your friends out for demanding so much of their time but you still get a response for them. It's just a thought. I hope this helps. Planning your nights is also a very good idea and I will very likely try to do just that in the future.
deleted_user
deleted_user
You are never alone. Perhaps you might seek out some spirituality or religion. There are some great self help books out there and believe me, once you get involved in a good book, be it fiction or non-fiction, you will not feel alone. If you still have problems, see your doctor...perhaps you are having panic issues and some medication may help with that. Remember, we are all in the same boat as people and we are all connected by the universe and I know all of us send our love and prayers to you to find comfort!