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pam96
pam96
This is following up on my question yesterday about sleeping with the other guy....I texted my husband again tonight & asked him if we could just talk tonight....he replied no. Then I asked him if when he is alone if he truly feels in his heart that he wants it to be over....he replied, "yes"...So I asked him once more the question that he would never answer....if he had the papers in front of him right now, would he sign them....He replied "yes"....he would never answer that before. So now I sit here finally believing it is over...sobbing & again considering the other guy. i know I sound really messed up 7 I am!! I cant handle the feeling of despair & I know that being with the other guy would be a reprieve from that...I need so much help that it scares me!!!!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Don't jump into another relationship...give yourself time to grieve and recover from this one before going on. Learn that it is okay to be with yourself. ((HUGS))
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree with POsOldlady, it is good to give yourself time to grieve and learn to love yourself before getting into another relationship.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I heard these lyrics in a song today and it helped clear my mind a bit about my recent break up...

Maybe it'll have the same effect for you...

"Every new beginning comes from some other beginning's end"

It's true in a sense... While the apple may fall from the tree and die, the seeds from that apple spawn a new tree... New "life" often comes from the "death" of something else...

Hope this helped...

*hugs*
deleted_user
deleted_user
I agree .... don't jump into another relationship. You haven't grieved and healed from this one. I'm am horribly scared at the prospect of divorce and being alone and feeling lonely, but I know the best thing for me is to do just that, if that's what it comes to. The best thing for me is to start feeling comfortable in my own skin and enjoying my own company. To get into another relationship right away would only repeat my unhealthy patterns.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am sorry you are hurting (((pam))) The BEST thing you can do is spend time with just you. Find out who you are and what you really want. If we go from one relationship to another, (and I am not judging) we just drag our issues around and bring them into the next relationship. If we can just work on us, I feel we get a clearer picture of who we are, what we want and need, and then I not only think we have something healthier to offer to another person and the relationship, but we are then in a relationship for the right reasons...
Blessings..
EllaBlue
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am so sorry for your pain. It is all too familiar of a heart ache to all of us. The knee jerk reaction is, of course to fill the gaping wound that is left open. Especially if someone is offering to bandage it back up. I guess the question you have to ask yourself in order to decide what to do is this...What purpose will this new relationship serve. Aside from the obvious physical affection, which feels sooo good to a wounded heart, what are you going to gain from it. Can you get that same satisfaction from being with yourself and prayer, meditation and some fasting maybe. These are the things that I tried, and they really do help. I am starting to like me, and that is a new feeling to me. I think I'm gonna chase that feeling.


Lucy