I know how u feel. He's taking you for granted because you're letting him & he knows he can get away with it. U need to let him know you're not ok with this. You gotta let your voice be heard. This is an ongoing process for me as well. I would suggest reading or re-reading Codependent No More. Also read some books on assertiveness & how to stop being a people-pleaser. Speaking from experience, the change will not happen overnight but eventually you'll see some changes. He's not always going to be happy with your new voice, but if he really cares about you, he'll support you. Good luck to you & I hope your new year will bring some positive changes.

Dear Sunsets, You sound very similar to me when i was younger and to certain extent what i can be like now, even after 21 years of marriage. Please try and let go of the 'probablies' and work with the facts.What is it that made you really unhappy? Had you hoped that your boyfriend would stay in with you baby sitting? That he was having fun whilst you wasn't? I don't want to sound harsh as i really do know how painful it can be. I wanted a perfect boyfriend who always put me first and treated me like a princess, I didn't want him to have a life without me in all honesty, that way i could control who he spoke to and where he went. Thankfully my boyfriend (now husband) didn't give in, he would've ended up as a door mat.
It's totally right for you to be treated with respect and for him to be considerate of you but what I have found and this is only my experience, men take a little longer to be as self less as us women(sorry for the men reading). My husband had to be shown or told what i expected, he couldn't read my mind and he most definately isn't as intuative as me. I can also understand the insecurity, that improved when I learned to like myself abit more. I had to trust him (he works at the airport with lots of beautiful air hostesses) but again that only came when i believed that i was worth loving. Sorry if I've gone completely off the wall, i can only share from my experience. you look like a very beautiful young lady from your picture, he'd be mad to wander!! Perhaps next year you should say no to sitting and get out and have fun!

I just want to be free again, but my heart and pride feel like they are stuck in quick sand. It's almost like we both feel too strongly about how we should be, that we can't just be who we are. It sounds so obviously horrible but he is like my best friend... and has been there by my side through hard times. I know my friends and yall are all correct in that I should run. Fast... but my pride can't let this go. Tragic really, and kinda pathetic. He didn't even call or text til 5am and I ignored his call. He says he loves me mpre than anyone but it feels like he puts everyone before me