I am a 48 year old, divorced dad with 2 of my 4 kids still at home (50% of the time). I have tried dating since my divorce and it hasn't gone well.... I have finally figured out that I am codependent. That codependency seems to turn off the healthy people, and attracts the unhealthy ones. My last girlfriend was a huge narcissist and an alcoholic and I really wanted to be there to help her with her problems. I couldn't see that she was a narcissist, though it would have been super simple if I had only analyzed it. After the breakup, I had a lot of negative self talk and I was very depressed for several weeks. I also had an emergency surgery in mid January that didn't help matters. I took a mini vacation to the Oregon Coast just over 2 weeks ago, and there I was able to bump myself out of that funk and am now working to find my way back to a healthy self. I have scheduled a visit with a counselor next week, and I am searching for help and answers for this issue of mine.
Now I am looking for the road to recovery, and am hoping this is a place where I can get help finding it. What have you read, seen or done that has had the biggest impact on your recovery? I am very interested in other people's stories and journeys. I am always looking for things that can help me make sense of my own situation.
Thank you in advance for you input!
See this article by Darlene Lancer below:Link = The Life-Altering Power of Setting Boundaries (and how to do it)I do not agree with everything from Dr Lancer, especially her relentless attack against people calling them enemies as "narcissist", but in that link above she nails this point very well indeed.The truth is that in order to reach a true recovery then it all requires and circumvents our...
great short video if you need motivation on boundaries ...