I am a 48 year old, divorced dad with 2 of my 4 kids still at home (50% of the time). I have tried dating since my divorce and it hasn't gone well.... I have finally figured out that I am codependent. That codependency seems to turn off the healthy people, and attracts the unhealthy ones. My last girlfriend was a huge narcissist and an alcoholic and I really wanted to be there to help her with her problems. I couldn't see that she was a narcissist, though it would have been super simple if I had only analyzed it. After the breakup, I had a lot of negative self talk and I was very depressed for several weeks. I also had an emergency surgery in mid January that didn't help matters. I took a mini vacation to the Oregon Coast just over 2 weeks ago, and there I was able to bump myself out of that funk and am now working to find my way back to a healthy self. I have scheduled a visit with a counselor next week, and I am searching for help and answers for this issue of mine.
Now I am looking for the road to recovery, and am hoping this is a place where I can get help finding it. What have you read, seen or done that has had the biggest impact on your recovery? I am very interested in other people's stories and journeys. I am always looking for things that can help me make sense of my own situation.
Thank you in advance for you input!
Now Since i am in recovery i can see my ownFamily clearer and look at some others family'senmeshment and see it for what it is.
I find that the more i heal, the lighter ifeel, the chattier i am socially.