Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hello,
This is my first Posting here but I have been on other Internet Forums before.
I live in a small rural town and we have AA meetings a plenty but nothing for codependency.
Years ago my youngest sister got treatment for codependency and she went to the very nice place in southern Arizona called the Meadows link here = http://www.themeadows.org/. I flew way out there for the family week and that was where I learned about codependency. Our father drank but our mom was an abusive religious type so we have lots of issues.
Now I have done lots of self-help and self study and since I have no CoDA group and my family is in denial, my sister gave up on recovery, and I feel all alone, then I tried putting my stuff into a type of book.
Then I thought about publishing but publishers are too difficult and I do not want to sell it anyway, so I put together a website and posted the book there and now I figure to show it to see if I am still lost in space or if the text makes sense.
So the website is here = www.Codependency.BraveHost.com and there is nothing for sale and it is meant to give some help for others dealing with codependency like myself.
I like criticism now (I use to be sensitive), both negative and positive criticism.
So are there any opinions here?
This is my first Posting here but I have been on other Internet Forums before.
I live in a small rural town and we have AA meetings a plenty but nothing for codependency.
Years ago my youngest sister got treatment for codependency and she went to the very nice place in southern Arizona called the Meadows link here = http://www.themeadows.org/. I flew way out there for the family week and that was where I learned about codependency. Our father drank but our mom was an abusive religious type so we have lots of issues.
Now I have done lots of self-help and self study and since I have no CoDA group and my family is in denial, my sister gave up on recovery, and I feel all alone, then I tried putting my stuff into a type of book.
Then I thought about publishing but publishers are too difficult and I do not want to sell it anyway, so I put together a website and posted the book there and now I figure to show it to see if I am still lost in space or if the text makes sense.
So the website is here = www.Codependency.BraveHost.com and there is nothing for sale and it is meant to give some help for others dealing with codependency like myself.
I like criticism now (I use to be sensitive), both negative and positive criticism.
So are there any opinions here?
Thank you for telling me - I love criticism.
Peace, from Booky.
A book I would suggest, it also has a workbook. I am in the process of completing both.
Of course I would recommend Melody Beattie... Codependence no more"
and welcome to our group
Peace,
What you are describing in some of your examples is not codepencency at all. For instance, a child being reared by its parents. while some parents raise their chilren in that context, not all children are raised as codependents. IF children are given the opportunity to make their own choices when possible, learn to take care of their things and be responsible and accountable for their behavior, they are not codependents. they are children learing to become successful adults.
I think you are trying to broaden the definition and context of codepencency into more normal experiences of life, in which they do not pertain.
The whole idea of codependency is that the behavior is unhealthy, emotionally vulnerable, and causes people to be vicitims of their circumstances rather than being able to live independently and make their own life choices.
Being in the military, although some aspects of codependency do apply, is still a life choice. And the treatment of its soldiers is intentional with a specific reason, not soley to dominate and control to satisfy a weak ego, but to enforce necessary control to make the functoning of the system work as it needs to and should. And it is with the consent of the soldier.
Codependency is the name we give to the negative aspects and that is fine by me, but to understand the condition more corectly then we must see the positive aspects too.
It is like a "sex addict" which have mis-used a beautiful action and made it into a negative condition.
Alcohol was an effective medicine in old times but some people turn it negative. Or it turns so people negative.
Codependency can be a healthy thing for a young child because a baby/child must be taught and must learn how to think and feel and how to live, but then some abuse or dysfunction enters and the child receives a negative codependency.