Breakups are hard and it takes time To work
thru it all. To me Limbo Land had to Be the
worst place of all. IMHO

You said in your post on divorce Forum You
two have been together for 25 years.

Therapy does help a lot and Coda/alanon
meetings do too. There are breakup Groups
to join. I went to divorce care Multiple times
until i didn't need it Anymore.

Its still a daily struggle, i won't lie when there
Is A third party involved it adds oil to an already
hot fire. Most of the time they were long checked
Out long before actually leaving the relationship
and then they find someone new before exiting.

If they don't respect you they don't love you,
Its really that simple. I do understand where
you Are coming from, my ex ended up with
His AA friend and they are still together, HUGS

So hard though, not sure how I’m gonna get through it all

At the beginning its just baby steps and to keep reaching out to live support groups especially.

Online helps too with all the anxiety and need to vent.

Do you have a good therapist? That will help with the bigger issues.

There is a lot of grief to process and move through in breakups.

There is a light at the end of the long dark tunnel. Hugs

Nice to get some support from another who’s been through it

Post on the breakup too. I did for a few years. My big suggestions were often therapy and divorce/breakup groups. Being with others does help. I was in alanon too.

I Became unashamed for needing help, love and support on my journey. Hugs

Hugs to you too

Just remember that what you are feeling is only temporary. It will get better. Many people go through what you are going through, at some point in their lives. me included, and I'm not trying to minimize how badly you feel, but it will get better.

They say that the best way to get rid of old memoies is to replace them with new ones. Try to focus on the present.

God Bless

Thanks Bob