Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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girlsinger 01/22/2015

She's been dead for 18 years and I'm still cowering in fear whenever I detect a change in someone's mood. "Getting in trouble" was horrible because she went in for the kill whether you were a stranger or her kid. I'm almost 60 and menopause has just amplified so many of my life long struggles. I'm in CoDA and have a great support system. Still, I'm so tired of living in fear and want to live instead of just surviving.

Thanks for reading this.

EMDGP7 01/22/2015

I have that same type of problem. Maybe not as bad as yours but bad enough. Mine came from my Dad, though, and he wasn't as intense as what you describe. Still, it had a permanent effect on me.

DeliAnnem 01/22/2015

Ever think of joining the PTSD board? I have it from my parents....

Sometimes, we think once they die, our abusers will stop hurting us. But we still have to live with the effects.

Hugs.

TeelaNa 01/22/2015

Hugs

girlsinger 01/26/2015

Great idea about the PTSD board. I definitely have PTSD now that I think about it. I understand my mom's psychology so I understand what motivated her to act the way she did. Nonetheless, I've been living with the fallout all my life.

DeliAnnem 01/26/2015

GS, you sound very kind to try to sympathize with her actions. But now that she's gone, you'll never get full closure... Group support can help a lot to put a voice to that void.

Hugs.

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