Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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spottiedottie485 03/15/2017

Hi! I'm Dottie and I'm codependent! I lost my CoDA group at home because I moved. I am a new mama and worried about my codependency running wild. My baby was born 12/06/16 and I have been happier than I have ever been. I have never really cared much about how long I live or what I did with my life until now. Right now I love life and I want to live as long as possible - and I know that sounds good and healthy , but I know that a big driving factor is probably my codependency. I wonder if I am just this happy because a little person needs me. I'm scared about what will happen if something ever happens to her. Any advice from other codependent parents ? I do NOT want my baby to ever get to know my codependency and I don't want to teach her these unhealthy habits either. Much love ! Nice to have a CoDA group (:

gravinggirl 03/15/2017

In my experience, the pitfalls of parenting as a codependent are mostly around fixing your (older) child's feelings and problems, being overly permissive (struggling with discipline), or dropping your self-care so you can be everything for everyone in your family. I have to use conscious effort to make space for my kids' feelings and not smooth them over.

mirandac 03/15/2017

I would find another CODA/alanon meeting to attend.

They really do help with the moving forward and getting
Better. i will never Graduate from alanon myself. This stuff
Is deep. How long were you going before moving? Many
That stop slowly will go back to their default setting or find
Themselves starting to, then they start going to meeetings
again to keep Centered and sane. HUGS

lisapp 03/16/2017

hi dottie. welcome!!!. im a mom of 4 and my friends joke that when my youngest starts getting independent i go and have another child:) i recently went on a visit to my inlaws house without the kids. that is very rare cos i never leave without the kids. my whole stay by my ilaws i was soooo self conscious and complexed and then i realized i need my kids around!! i need to feel constantly needed otherwise i feel soo lost... you wont loose your happiness cos im still a beaming mom of 4.. also i always have this fear of not wanting my kids to see im codependent. ive got lots to say on that topic.. my oldest gas definitely picked up my nature cos i was clueless about codepe when i bought her up..

awakening713 03/17/2017

i just figured out awhile back i was codependent.
congratulations on the baby. They are truly a gift..
i am new to this group.
i am taking a 12 week class Lisa A Romano acoa life coach. check her out on utube shes awesome.
Also i have 5 kids ages 26,25,24,22,20. so i can tell ya what not to do..

mirandac 03/17/2017

That will be so cool to find out how you make out!

I love her free youtube videos also her for all The
giving back she does to help other people, HUGS

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