Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I have trust issues. I have an EX girlfriend (due to my BP illness). but, she's sticking around. All I can thing about her spending the night with someone else (she assures me shes not sleeping w/anyone) I don't beleive her. I obsess when she doesn't call. She ususally calls at 9:15 no call yet. I get nervous it's due to thinking shes spending the night elsewhere. She says she doesn't havetime to deal with anyone else. I'm enough work for her. I want her to love me like b4 so, I'm trying with all my heart to give her space and let her miss me. It's hard but, I'm trying.
This AM I woke up and had a dream that she was at home. I looked outside and she was walking my dog w/a blonde girl. I knocked on her door and she didn't answer so, I looked thru the window and the girl was laying sideways and my EX said she had to lay that way or they would sleep together. I have these dreams each night. I hate to wake up that way.
I'm giving her control she doesn't want. What do I do sleep with someone else, move on? I love her and she has treated me better than anyone has.
Confused.
This AM I woke up and had a dream that she was at home. I looked outside and she was walking my dog w/a blonde girl. I knocked on her door and she didn't answer so, I looked thru the window and the girl was laying sideways and my EX said she had to lay that way or they would sleep together. I have these dreams each night. I hate to wake up that way.
I'm giving her control she doesn't want. What do I do sleep with someone else, move on? I love her and she has treated me better than anyone has.
Confused.
My only advice is to try to focus more on yourself and your love for yourself. Every time your mind wanders to her or what she's doing, use that as a reminder to think about something you love about yourself or something that makes you believe you already have all the love you need. You do, it just might not feel easy to access. But you have everything you need already.
When I first started trying to work on my codependency issues and it was nearly impossible for me to stop thinking about a partner and focus on loving myself, I'd pretend I was my own partner. I'd talk to myself lovingly, treat myself lovingly with healthy food and fresh air, just like I'd want a loving partner to want for me. I hope this helps and that you find some relief. Love is with you!