Codependency Support Group
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For the last 28+ years my father and older half sister have been the bane of my existence and mainly because of the conversations between my mother and I.
They both are literally mentally ill and literally abusive and volatile people who have done nothing but leave a scorch earth legacy behind them towards everyone in their lives....and when I say everyone...I literally mean EVERYONE. It has been the cornerstone of a lot of baggage I carried with me, and my mother has been having heart ache for years because of the two of them for all these years having countless conversations with me about it. Soooooo grueling.
We would rehash, re-review, dissect, have emotional heaviness, yadda yadda yadda....I mean we literally beat the discussions around these two people into the ground so hard that I literally would get almost irritated by the end of it even hearing their names....I just knew any conversation was never going to be me walking away feeling closure, accomplished, or resolved. If anything it was as if there was some type of life sucking that occurred as a result of the conversation.
Well today once again my father and half sister came into the conversation.......and today we finally gained closure.
We both agreed from this day forward we will not discuss these two people any longer with each other. Which for me means, I will never need to dredge this up again...I can literally move forward and let them go. WOW. Major!!
All I did was suggest it, and it came to be....I have been suffering inside myself for all these years not using my voice to say "no more"....and today I was brave enough to finally cut the chord of even hearing these people's names any longer.
They both stole so much from my life in so many ways......and today I got to break free from that and say enough is enough. And reclaim my soul and life!
Using my voice was so powerful......who knew a simple sentence could create such an impact of change in my life. And why I never was brave enough or thought I could ask for it, in all these years but wanting it so desperately I will never know....but I did it!!
I feel like this new found tool, is going to be the best gift I have given myself in all my years.....almost better than quitting drinking :)
If there was ever something that I feel Co-Dependency created in me was the fear of saying how I feel, and asking for what I want........and I have in this year reclaimed so much by just using both of these.....and boy what a change has happened.
Thank you 2014 for that gift, it was the hardest gift to learn, and the most painful place to be to receive it....but I am so grateful for it!
This share was for those who are just starting their journeys, or still aren't quiet yet ready to use their voice....as scary as it seems....it is so liberating to do!! USE IT!! Sending my heartfelt gratitude for the community on this site, with each of your shares, feedback, and more I would not have been able to even walk this journey!!
Gratitude and Blessings to each of you on your journeys
They both are literally mentally ill and literally abusive and volatile people who have done nothing but leave a scorch earth legacy behind them towards everyone in their lives....and when I say everyone...I literally mean EVERYONE. It has been the cornerstone of a lot of baggage I carried with me, and my mother has been having heart ache for years because of the two of them for all these years having countless conversations with me about it. Soooooo grueling.
We would rehash, re-review, dissect, have emotional heaviness, yadda yadda yadda....I mean we literally beat the discussions around these two people into the ground so hard that I literally would get almost irritated by the end of it even hearing their names....I just knew any conversation was never going to be me walking away feeling closure, accomplished, or resolved. If anything it was as if there was some type of life sucking that occurred as a result of the conversation.
Well today once again my father and half sister came into the conversation.......and today we finally gained closure.
We both agreed from this day forward we will not discuss these two people any longer with each other. Which for me means, I will never need to dredge this up again...I can literally move forward and let them go. WOW. Major!!
All I did was suggest it, and it came to be....I have been suffering inside myself for all these years not using my voice to say "no more"....and today I was brave enough to finally cut the chord of even hearing these people's names any longer.
They both stole so much from my life in so many ways......and today I got to break free from that and say enough is enough. And reclaim my soul and life!
Using my voice was so powerful......who knew a simple sentence could create such an impact of change in my life. And why I never was brave enough or thought I could ask for it, in all these years but wanting it so desperately I will never know....but I did it!!
I feel like this new found tool, is going to be the best gift I have given myself in all my years.....almost better than quitting drinking :)
If there was ever something that I feel Co-Dependency created in me was the fear of saying how I feel, and asking for what I want........and I have in this year reclaimed so much by just using both of these.....and boy what a change has happened.
Thank you 2014 for that gift, it was the hardest gift to learn, and the most painful place to be to receive it....but I am so grateful for it!
This share was for those who are just starting their journeys, or still aren't quiet yet ready to use their voice....as scary as it seems....it is so liberating to do!! USE IT!! Sending my heartfelt gratitude for the community on this site, with each of your shares, feedback, and more I would not have been able to even walk this journey!!
Gratitude and Blessings to each of you on your journeys
Here's a breakthrough for you... Did you realize how many times you said, "literally?"
"Literally" means "word-for-word," as opposed to figuratively.
So I think you realized the power of using your WORDS! : D
Never underestimate the power of just asking for something. You MAY just get it!
I know I sometimes have refrained from asking, lest I hear, "no" and either feel embarrassed for asking, or getting in "trouble" for asking... Helloooooo, damaged childhood!
But we are adults now! If you ask and get it, YAY! If not, hey, at least you tried. And you can document how you asked and the OTHER person said "no." THAT's on THEM; NOT you!
Hugs and cartwheels!
I am laughing at how many times I said literally.... I am literally falling out of my chair laughing! HAHAHAHA
Thank you so much for being a champion of helping me realize my truths, you are my soul sister :) I appreciate you beyond any words.....literally. Ok I will stop it now!