Hi..yesterday I joined the group "break up and divorce", I posted something and someone suggested me to join this group, so I'm re-posting my message here..

Hi everybody..I want to know if anybody else is experiencing the same pattern of "loving too much", having this need to put a relashionship above all and smacks her/his face every time, as me. I am reading Robin Norwood's "Women who love too much"and I completely identify with this pattern; I am always choosing the man who isn't secure and available, so to receive a rejection. My last ex was my first serious boyfriend and I thought we had a really close bond, but then he left me, without being completely honest about the true reasons for that. I tried to ask him, but he kept avoiding a staight answer trying being polite, but I was feeling a hidden anger from his side and I was actually right about it. Then I have a guy who is on and off my life for the last 5 years for who I feel an intense love, but he is keeping me in an absurd distance most of the time. Being always there, but not really. It's really hard and painful to change my pattern having at the end really low self esteem. Let me know if somebody understands and wants to share.