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is this typical?

2earlyriser
2earlyriser
I recently got abandoned by a very close friend for no apparent reason. We were great friends. He even considered me his best friend. Then he just stopped talking to me. I apologized to him face to face and asked him to forgive me, he never responded. He totally ignores me now. Like I don't even exist. I am crushed. I am so hurt and angry. I feel its my fault that he dislikes me. Its upsetting to the point where I am lashing out at others that don't deserve it. I want to let go of this relationship but keep hoping that it can be salvaged. Is that typical behavior for someone who is codependent? How can I feel better when I see this man? How do I let go and let God?
deleted_user
deleted_user
It's codependent if you are apologizing when you don't even know if you did anything wrong. Why are you assuming it's your fault? Maybe it's his. Odd that he wouldn't let you know why. Very passive aggressive. You are better off without this friend, because this is not a true friend.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Typical or not, this is how it is for you. Codependence, according to the experts over in Codependents Anonymous, is an inability to have healthy relationships. If your good life and self esteem depend on what somebody else is feeling, doing, or saying, you may need some work on those issues.

Melody Beatty has written Codependent No More". It is a better handbook and better answers than you will find most places. I suggest that you check it out.
2earlyriser
2earlyriser
Thank you cheryt and BobCJ for your comments and encouragement. I have read that book and found it very helpful. I agree that my ex-friend has issues and I do as well. I need to develop healthy relationships. I must stop letting others determine how I feel.