hello. new to this group. i wanted to know if i am codependent. i have a grown son who lives w/me. he is an alcoholic. i seem to make him want to drink. i dont try hard to stop him. used to but he is 27yrs old mow. he is in colledge and does very well a,s and b,s only. while being able to drink like a fish and not take care of himself at all. i mean not bathing, eating, etc. he does have deppression but wont go to any doctors his teeth are so bad, wont go to dentist. he is not phisical, but verbaly abusive to me. i have much guilt about not being a good mother. allways wanted y kids to be my best friend. bad idea. anyway, thts were we are now. my oldest son weighs abnout 500 lbs. i feel like ive crated monsters, so now i and they have to suffer the consacinces. i live w/ a ton of guilt every day. i do take lots of meds for my mental dissorders, think thats one reson son doesnt want to go to anyone. he hates medicine, which is good in a way, but he is self medicating, he realy is looking old. i dont know what to do. and its very humiliating to admit any of this. good thing this is annonamis.he is realy a awsome guy, but he doesnt let people see it. oh the guilt. thts what im all about. ok, just wanted to know if im in the right group. thaks very much in advance.....