Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hi all
I need some help, i dont ever feel like i want sex, nor do i think that i need it. I have been with my boyfriend for two years and it has been very hard cus of cultural conflict. No one acknowledges it, and i feel like im caught between family and partner - what can i give my partner if i am wrapped up in problems. He feels rejected as i never want sex, am going through depression, and thinking why dont i want it - am i scared, i dont get that feeling ,dont know what to do? help i know this is personal stuff but sex is a issue, maybe cus of my culture, i feel bad and think about all my problems.
I need some help, i dont ever feel like i want sex, nor do i think that i need it. I have been with my boyfriend for two years and it has been very hard cus of cultural conflict. No one acknowledges it, and i feel like im caught between family and partner - what can i give my partner if i am wrapped up in problems. He feels rejected as i never want sex, am going through depression, and thinking why dont i want it - am i scared, i dont get that feeling ,dont know what to do? help i know this is personal stuff but sex is a issue, maybe cus of my culture, i feel bad and think about all my problems.
Please understand this is your relationship. Not your moms, dads aunts, uncles, etc. Let's put the focus on you for the moment. Do you feel that your personal burdens and problems are preventing you from being a healthy partner? If so, you need to heal. It is possible to do so while remaining in the relationship, but relationships tend to focus us on our significant others instead of ourselves. By no means am I telling you what to do, but trying to give love from a wounded mindset is unrealistic. It just doesn't happen. We can give the appearance of love it's usually hollow.
None of us on this board like to break up with anyone, it's a hot button which triggers fear anxiety, grief, pain, etc. I'm not even suggesting that you do it. I do recommend making some "you time". Time in which you do nothing except focusing on personal growth and healing. If all your time is wrapped up with your boyfriend then a little detaching may be in order. If so, please remember, it's not a bad thing.
Above all else, open honest communication is key. Often our pains are wrapped up in the dark secret places we don't want to talk about because we are afraid. Pamjit, walk in love, not fear.