Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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i think i might do it today

barnowl
barnowl
I might leave him after 5 years. I feel sick to my stomach and i keep crying. I love him so much but i know this relationship is really sick and i am doing neither of us any favors by helping continue it. This is sucks. I have never had to break up with someone i am still in love with.
deleted_user
deleted_user
I am in the process now, and I've done it several times before. May I suggest that you tell someone you trust? Tell them what is going on and what you know you need to do. Get support and encouragement. You will need it! My former fiance is calling me, texting me, sent me roses, etc. It is so hard to resist the pull. But I told my children I ended it and I told several trusted friends. Now I have seen a therapist. This gives me strength when I feel that powerful pull towards him which means back to more pain and emotional anguish. This time was easier because we were not living together. But it was hard because I was engaged and noone knew what I was going through so I felt a lot of embarrassment because I had painted such a pretty picture on the outside. All I know is how I feel when I am with him and how I fell when I am not. It's time to listen to our hearts, to tell ourselves the truth, and to love ourselves at least as much as we love others. Just my opinion. May you find the strength to do what you know you need to do. Blessings,
deleted_user
deleted_user
I had to make the same decision about two months ago and it's not easy. But with therapy and strength I was able to go thru with it. I was in a relationship with the nicest caring guy I had ever met but I wasn't happy. I felt like I was in the relationship just to have someone around that i can make happy because I don't know how to be alone. But I realized that I need to work on myself, learn how to make myself happy by taking care of me first. It has been a hard 2 months and I feel like I'm having relationship withdrawals. Him and I are still friends and hopefully one day when I'm better we can try again. Good luck to you and remember it's about finding your inner strength to be able to let go and begin to love yourself first!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Sending you love and healing energy as you respond to the part of you that knows what is best. You WILL heal if you seek healing. Find hope in healing a pattern, so that it won't be like this the next time love finds you. Love isn't supposed to hurt - it's supposed to enhance our lives. It's okay if we process our historical wounds with our partners, but as PARTNERS, not as competitors, constestants or enemies.

It takes courage for the next part of this journey. You must have it by now, since you have decided. You can do it. It will be hard, but it will get easier. Hugs.