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I said NO

KourtneyHart
KourtneyHart
Most of the time I do things for people if they ask.. Last night my mom told me she promised my little sister she would go the whole day without drinking.. My sis went to her friends house for a few hours and my mom was supposed to pick her up at 8. My mom called me and asked me if I would pick her up instead because she felt like having some drinks.
I said NO and thats kind of a big deal for me. I am practicing saying NO to things like that. :)
My mom had no choie but to pick her up.. I just hope she didnt drink & drive LOL
deleted_user
deleted_user
Saying no IS a really big deal for codependents! You're not only setting boundaries with your mother, but subconsciously you are teaching yourself that you have limits and expectations for those around you. I smell some recovery :)
deleted_user
deleted_user
GREAT JOB KourtneyHart! Saying NO can be so difficult!
arbe
arbe
good for you. It really is hard for codeps to no. I mostly can't say no either and then get resentful about it. Always good to hear that it is possible
deleted_user
deleted_user
Yea!
deleted_user
deleted_user
Aweome. Congrats. Practice practice practice.
I'm happy for you.
You didn't put drink in her hand. She promised and couldnt come thru. And you didn't fix it.

Thats awesome.
KourtneyHart
KourtneyHart
Thanks everyone! :))))))