Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
Hi people,
As you might have read it in my latest posts, I've got into a very difficult situation and hit the rock bottom again which has driven me into confronting my mother, as I and my therapist think that she is probably the key to everything.
I told her everything about my codependency and that it is probably because of my childhood experience, their divorce, her control, my father's neglect. I told about my fear and my hurt and my anger and hate toward her, my anxiety, my depression, etc. And I tried to do it in a non-blaming way and she totally accepted everything I said and she's ready to work with me to rebuild our relationship.
I've been very afraid to do this for a log time and it's a huge rock off my shoulders. I feel relieved. Although, I still have work to do with her and my therapist as I still feel the anger and hate toward my mother but I now believe that I just need to keep working and it will all be okay.
A big well done to me! I'm very proud of myself now.
And a big thank you to all of you who have been helping me on this forum!
You're so cool, guys! :)
Have a nice day!
As you might have read it in my latest posts, I've got into a very difficult situation and hit the rock bottom again which has driven me into confronting my mother, as I and my therapist think that she is probably the key to everything.
I told her everything about my codependency and that it is probably because of my childhood experience, their divorce, her control, my father's neglect. I told about my fear and my hurt and my anger and hate toward her, my anxiety, my depression, etc. And I tried to do it in a non-blaming way and she totally accepted everything I said and she's ready to work with me to rebuild our relationship.
I've been very afraid to do this for a log time and it's a huge rock off my shoulders. I feel relieved. Although, I still have work to do with her and my therapist as I still feel the anger and hate toward my mother but I now believe that I just need to keep working and it will all be okay.
A big well done to me! I'm very proud of myself now.
And a big thank you to all of you who have been helping me on this forum!
You're so cool, guys! :)
Have a nice day!
I hope you two can come to a promising relationship that will leave you with feelings of warmth and love. It is a scary situation to leave those wounds open, only to feel as if your going to be attacked again.
I have had similar experience with my mom, however we just are platonic now, no real intimacy of any sort, which I am ok with now, but, I know in my heart I will never have the true love from her that I felt i deserved only because I was her daugther, but she always withheld it from me, and I never understood why, but I have my own family now, and don't really have time to deal with her psyche.
It's great to hear you feel good now, and I hope this feeling remains.
Proud of each step you've made in trying. That's a huge part of the battle.