Wow, after a year of a roller coaster relationship, I finally hit bottom yesterday. The short version.... He is recoving from back surgury, which he belives gives him the right to over dose on pain meds (not a new problem), he took so many pills he freaked out his friend how brought him home from the hospital. I took the box of pills out of his bed and took care of him the first night after he came home (and kept him from overdosing). He parents came over the next day, he was up using the walker, bathing himself, etc... not bed ridden.. He was so pissed that I went to take care of my own needs, he send a string of text and messages, ranging from I love you to... how dare you not be here.. to I'm sorry I'm selfish. Anything to make me feel bad about taking care of MYSELF. On Friday, I was bit by a pit bull (my tenants dog) on my hand and have my own pain and lack of mobility, but the narcasist saw this as me trying to take the attention away from him and ranted about how dare I even explain to his dad what happened to me and not focus all my attention on HIM.

I did go over at 6:30am the yesterday morning, after another string of text of "I'm in agonizing pain". I offered to take the puppy who has had diarrhea and he fliped out accusing me of "abusing" him and he called 911!. I ran out of the house and called 911 myself - afraid of what he would fabricate to the police.

That was it for me! I'm sure he'll try and contact me in a couple of days, blaming his behavior on "the drugs" or "the pain", no way! I told him that post surgical pain does not give him the right to treat me like crap.

I feel like a huge burden has been lifted off me. Yes, I'm sad, but no tears this time. I am still committed to working on my path of recovery and breaking my condependent habits FOR MYSELF!