Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I was searching online for what a narcissist is because my husband has such off the wall behaviors. It just never makes since to me. After reading I feel I understand better what is going on inside of him. Yes he is an overt narcissist. As i kept reading i learned about who narcissist usually pray on they used this word codependent. I was like what is that? As i read about it i was blown away...thats me... Thats what i do... A big light bulb came on. Now i am trying to understand everything. Everything is falling into place like a puzzle being put together. A puzzle that i never knew existed till now. Im learning my mom is a covert narcissist. I can't believe im surrounded by narcissist people. I need to know how to set boundaries? How to recover from this? How do i change? where do i start? Can some one help give me some advice please. Thank you
especially with boundaries. I attend alanon.
Lisa romano has tons of free tapes on youTube.
The narcisstic and the codie dance together, one
Gives and the other one takes.
I would not Say anything since you found out. Its
not a great subject outside of very safe people.Talk
to a trained therapist To help guide you. HUGS
Someone said get her bookbook too it helps.
Ross rosenberg has a book the human magnet
syndrome.
Lisa romano has 200+ Free videos on youtube
and she also Has a coaching program. i do not
know how that All Works, her free stuff is great.
Seeing a good therapist helps too, They validate
Steer and correct your thinking. There are other
Modularities available too beside talk therapy.
Eventually hopefully you will get strong enough
for meetings. They really do make a big difference
In the changing and growing from the inside out.
Its a long hard journey yet so worth it.
If they are narcs be careful, They will not accept any
truths and will Often come after you if you expose
Them, most therapist won't treat a personality disordered
Narc. They lack empathy and can not look in a the Mirror.
If there are addictions going on in the homes there are
Layers of narc traits. The disease of alcoholism creates
The traits and the isms of the disease. They are not
Personality disordered Though.
Most addicts have narc traits because they have Selfish,
self centered behaviors. My XMIL is full of the Traits and
the isms of the disease because she is an adult Child and
never dealt with her stuff and she lives in her Own reality
to this day at 75 she is not an alcoholic just comes from it
And it her coping skills she still brings into her adult years.
HUGS
Attend at least 6 CoDA (Codependence Anonymous) meetings and try to be totally open and honest with yourself about what you hear / read and tell defensiveness to take a back seat.
We CAN change our behavior patterns and we CAN learn how to find and nurture healthy relationships. It begins with recognizing and changing our own dysfunctional patterns.
Best to you. Don't give up.