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When you are troubled by personal behaviors or by uncontrollable and unchangeable people, places, things and situations in your life, you can follow these steps so as to admit your powerlessness over them to enable you to get help from others to deal with them.
First Identify what behavior, person, place, thing or situation is causing you problems and making your life unmanageable.
Second: Identify what it is about this problem that makes you feel powerless.
Third: Identify what irrational beliefs keeps you from admitting being powerless over the problem.
Fourth: Replace this irrational thinking with healthy, rational, more realistic thinking about powerlessness such as the following positive self-affirmations.
* I am a human being and deserve support from others in my efforts to address problems over which I currently feel powerless.
* I deserve support and help to address these problems for my self-growth.
* It is human to feel powerless since only God is all powerful and omnipotent.
* I will get closer to recovery from my problems once I admit my inability to solve them on my own.
* It is OK to feel powerlessness over my problems as long as I reach out to my Higher Power and others for assistance and support.
* I can solve problems that come my way as long as I am willing to admit my inability to solve them on my own and seek help to deal with them
* I gain more in life by letting go of control over those things that are out of my power to control.
* I gain serenity in life by admitting what I am powerless to change and control.
* I am a human and not God, and that's OK.
* Help is only given to those who ask for it.
* I can reach out for help when I am powerless to solve a problem on my own.
* I will seek help from my Higher Power and others when I feel powerless to solve a problem on my own.
Fifth: Once you have affirmed your right to admit powerlessness over the problem, then reach out to others to seek their support and assistance.
Sixth: Simultaneous with reaching out for help from others to deal with the problem, seek your Higher Power's assistance by the following:
* Handing over the uncontrollable and unchangeable elements of the problem to your Higher Power.
* Asking your Higher Power for the strength, wisdom and courage to deal with the controllable and changeable elements of the problem.
Seventh: Once you gain help and support from others and your Higher Power, conscientiously and assiduously take steps to address the changeable elements which you have the power and ability to change.
Eighth: Recognize that progress will be slow and erratic at first in changing personal behaviors of an impulsive, addictive, compulsive or obsessive nature. Give yourself enough time to change, taking one day at a time.
Ninth: Admit to yourself that, in changing personal behaviors or habits, relapse into the old behaviors is a fact of life. Give yourself permission to be a human and to experience a relapse into old behavior and then get back onto the wagon of recovery. Don't end your efforts to change if you should experience a slippage into old patterns or habits of acting. Do not seek perfection in recovery. Admit that you are not a "perfect being'' and that you don't have to recover perfectly all at one time.
Tenth: Monitor your progress in solving your problem and handling relapses of old behaviors. Try not to take on more than you can handle by remembering:
* Take one thing at a time
* Step by step
* Easy does it
* First things first
* Day by day
* Hour by hour
* Minute by minute
* Progress is slow but steady
* You are the determiner of pace
* You are in charge of your destiny
* Rome wasn't built in a day
* It took a long time to get you into this and it will take a long time to get out
Eleventh: If you are again overwhelmed by your efforts to solve this problem, admit your powerlessness and gain support and assistance to persist and not give up your efforts.
Twelfth: If you are not experiencing success in solving this problem, the chances are you have not fully admitted your powerlessness to change, control or solve it on your own. Return to the first step and begin over again.
Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14716-accepting-powerlessness/#ixzz1tpSfxJYN
First Identify what behavior, person, place, thing or situation is causing you problems and making your life unmanageable.
Second: Identify what it is about this problem that makes you feel powerless.
Third: Identify what irrational beliefs keeps you from admitting being powerless over the problem.
Fourth: Replace this irrational thinking with healthy, rational, more realistic thinking about powerlessness such as the following positive self-affirmations.
* I am a human being and deserve support from others in my efforts to address problems over which I currently feel powerless.
* I deserve support and help to address these problems for my self-growth.
* It is human to feel powerless since only God is all powerful and omnipotent.
* I will get closer to recovery from my problems once I admit my inability to solve them on my own.
* It is OK to feel powerlessness over my problems as long as I reach out to my Higher Power and others for assistance and support.
* I can solve problems that come my way as long as I am willing to admit my inability to solve them on my own and seek help to deal with them
* I gain more in life by letting go of control over those things that are out of my power to control.
* I gain serenity in life by admitting what I am powerless to change and control.
* I am a human and not God, and that's OK.
* Help is only given to those who ask for it.
* I can reach out for help when I am powerless to solve a problem on my own.
* I will seek help from my Higher Power and others when I feel powerless to solve a problem on my own.
Fifth: Once you have affirmed your right to admit powerlessness over the problem, then reach out to others to seek their support and assistance.
Sixth: Simultaneous with reaching out for help from others to deal with the problem, seek your Higher Power's assistance by the following:
* Handing over the uncontrollable and unchangeable elements of the problem to your Higher Power.
* Asking your Higher Power for the strength, wisdom and courage to deal with the controllable and changeable elements of the problem.
Seventh: Once you gain help and support from others and your Higher Power, conscientiously and assiduously take steps to address the changeable elements which you have the power and ability to change.
Eighth: Recognize that progress will be slow and erratic at first in changing personal behaviors of an impulsive, addictive, compulsive or obsessive nature. Give yourself enough time to change, taking one day at a time.
Ninth: Admit to yourself that, in changing personal behaviors or habits, relapse into the old behaviors is a fact of life. Give yourself permission to be a human and to experience a relapse into old behavior and then get back onto the wagon of recovery. Don't end your efforts to change if you should experience a slippage into old patterns or habits of acting. Do not seek perfection in recovery. Admit that you are not a "perfect being'' and that you don't have to recover perfectly all at one time.
Tenth: Monitor your progress in solving your problem and handling relapses of old behaviors. Try not to take on more than you can handle by remembering:
* Take one thing at a time
* Step by step
* Easy does it
* First things first
* Day by day
* Hour by hour
* Minute by minute
* Progress is slow but steady
* You are the determiner of pace
* You are in charge of your destiny
* Rome wasn't built in a day
* It took a long time to get you into this and it will take a long time to get out
Eleventh: If you are again overwhelmed by your efforts to solve this problem, admit your powerlessness and gain support and assistance to persist and not give up your efforts.
Twelfth: If you are not experiencing success in solving this problem, the chances are you have not fully admitted your powerlessness to change, control or solve it on your own. Return to the first step and begin over again.
Read more: http://www.livestrong.com/article/14716-accepting-powerlessness/#ixzz1tpSfxJYN
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