Codependency Support Group

Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...

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Ivedoneitagain 03/27/2018

Hi everyone,

I am in the beginning of a new relationship and I'm really struggling not to get caught into my fears and old ways of over depending to him..

Today I called him and he didn't reply only like 7-8 hours later that he sent me a voice message telling me he was thinking of me today, but he caught a nasty cold and feeling awful all day..I thought he was busy with work or whatever, I haven't thought really of any bad scenario..still emotionally I feel neglected and angry and I don't know if it's for him (I don't believe so) or if I have my same old fear of abbandoment..I'm really straggling not to show him this and tell my self to be cool and not to get hang into him like I did with the others in the past and focus on me..but it's so damn hard..I feel like an amateur..:(

rbn365 03/27/2018

I’m feeling the same way, earlier my boyfriend and I talk a lot today, this evening I called he never answered, he text and said he was eating his dinner and he was tired and was going to bed early. I felt hurt and angered, this is a new relationship maybe six months I just don’t want to start depending on him to make me feel happy. I hate myself for feeling so dependent on someone else for my happiness.

Ivedoneitagain 03/28/2018

I think it's best when you can learn from your mistakes, so that next time you are aware of the mistake before it even occurs. SimpsonsOK, I think you did a great journey and you had great support on it and I truly thank you for sharing that with me.

Rbn365, I'm sorry to hear about your straggle, but I feel better to have somebody completely understand what I'm experiencing. I think it's hard for us to accept that a person needs its personal space, because firstly we don't truly accept that for ourselves. We may say "I too need my own space", but we don't actually mean it, because the moment we are alone we're feeling insecure. During these 7 hours that I haven't heard from him, I really tried to focus on other things (myself mainly) but my mind kept drifting away to the same "obsessing" thought that he's neglecting me. I thing it's hard but the moment we start to feel angry and neglected without any serious reason, we need to try as hard as we can to distract ourselves by doing something for us (like meditating, do a pedicure, read a book ecc) in order to fill our time alone and make it enjoyable. I'm really straggling, but I hope I can do that and I am wishing the same for you.

Ivedoneitagain 03/29/2018

Thank you, it means a lot to have the support of someone who has been through this and kept on fighting. I think you are a very courageous person and I really appreciate that you want to help us as well to get there :)

Ivedoneitagain 03/29/2018

You know it's really frustrating for me that one minute I feel strong and a sort of love for my self and the next minute (usually when something goes "wrong"with him)I feel down in the dumps and it takes all my efforts to boost my self up..

Ivedoneitagain 03/31/2018

Thank you :)

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