Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I picked up a copy of " A Gentle Path Through The Twelve Steps For all People in the Process of Recovery"..... I am maybe 6 or 7 pages in. I'm finding it a bit difficult because the main focus seems to be alcoholism & co addicts of them which I find a little hard to translate into my situation. My real problem however, is that everything I read, i think "that is him...I wish we could share in this journey"...How do I stop thinking of him & let this be about my recovery....I am so obsessed with him it is driving me nuts & my support system as well.... Help, please??
perhaps you have love addiction.
i don't go to al anon because someone's drinking concerns me, i go because of the 12 steps and their ability to improve anyone's life.
you are allowed to be creative....to fill in the blank of :
I AM POWERLESS OVER ______.
for me it was that i was powerless over others.
i was obsessed with others.
now the focus is on me.
perhaps for every time you say "aha! this is him. i wish he would join my on this journey" say to yourself "what is it in my mind or emotional makeup that gets a payoff from being with someone who is like this?"
for me, literally, when i first began recovery, when i would turn the finger of responsiblity or blame at someone i would do my absolute best to turn it back on myself.
keep practicing it. we practice it always because we never get it perfect!
(((((((((((hugs))))))))))))
and keep comin back and asking questions. you are right where you need to be!
xo
Dr. G