I am a mother of two children, and have been in a relationship with my partner for almost eight years (known him for twenty years). From all that I have read I believe that I am codependent, this issue stemming from childhood events. My kids are eight and fourteen and being a mom is basically who I have been for a long time. My relationship has taken a downhill turn and I have no clue how to get myself back on track and remember who I used to be. Right now I live for my kids and my partner and I don't know how to step back and take care of myself and my own needs. My Childrens father is an alcoholic and I tried to fix him for nine years before leaving. My current partner is a pretty hardcore online gamer, though he has made efforts to slow down since I basically threatened to leave him if he didn't. I need help. I feel very lost and don't know how to fix myself.