Codependency Support Group
Codependency is defined as someone who exhibits too much, and often inappropriate, caring for another person's struggles. A codependent person may try to change, or feel shame about their most private thoughts and feelings if they conflict with the other person's struggles. If you are on a journey towards self-love, this support group is for you. Join us and find others...
I just want to say I am so glad for finding this site... actually I am so glad a dear friend directed me to this site. I am going by the name "Messenger2010" for a reason.
Last year I was adopted into the Cherokee family, which I take a lot of pride in and was given the name Messenger. 2010 is because a new life started for me this year. And that is why I have a Cherokee Warrior as my avatar.
For the last three years I was a mod on an ACOA board... which had to be the most thankless job I have ever done. The good thing about it is that I met some truly amazing people. Some that I hope to call friends for life.
This past weekend after months of an under current of turmoil everything exploded on the board and right in the middle of it was the owner of the site.
I just knew after it started that I needed to get away from it and find a new home. So here I am.
My favorite author is John Bradshaw and he was the one who opened my eyes to a different believe system with "recovery." You see I am also an alcoholic, been sober for 16 years.
Anyway Bradshaw believes that there is no such thing as just an alcoholic or an addict. That being an alcoholic is a secondary illness, while the primary illness is codependency.
And after reviewing my life it was quite obvious as an alcoholic and an ACOA that I am indeed a codependent.
What has amazed me with working the 12 Steps of these three programs is how spiritually at peace I have become and how I take such enjoyment watching others grow in their programs... finding their unique gifts.
I am still learning how everything works on this site... but just the reading I have done has filled me with such warmth at the knowledge and experience that is here.
I am so glad to have been taken here and thanks for making me feel welcomed.
Dave
Last year I was adopted into the Cherokee family, which I take a lot of pride in and was given the name Messenger. 2010 is because a new life started for me this year. And that is why I have a Cherokee Warrior as my avatar.
For the last three years I was a mod on an ACOA board... which had to be the most thankless job I have ever done. The good thing about it is that I met some truly amazing people. Some that I hope to call friends for life.
This past weekend after months of an under current of turmoil everything exploded on the board and right in the middle of it was the owner of the site.
I just knew after it started that I needed to get away from it and find a new home. So here I am.
My favorite author is John Bradshaw and he was the one who opened my eyes to a different believe system with "recovery." You see I am also an alcoholic, been sober for 16 years.
Anyway Bradshaw believes that there is no such thing as just an alcoholic or an addict. That being an alcoholic is a secondary illness, while the primary illness is codependency.
And after reviewing my life it was quite obvious as an alcoholic and an ACOA that I am indeed a codependent.
What has amazed me with working the 12 Steps of these three programs is how spiritually at peace I have become and how I take such enjoyment watching others grow in their programs... finding their unique gifts.
I am still learning how everything works on this site... but just the reading I have done has filled me with such warmth at the knowledge and experience that is here.
I am so glad to have been taken here and thanks for making me feel welcomed.
Dave
I will immediately apologize for anything I say related to alcohol and that it is in no way meant to be offensive to yourself or anyone that has a drinking problem. Bi-polar runs in my family. I spent most of my life cycling from depression to hypo-mania. Prescriptions did not work. The only thing that really helps me take the edge off sometimes is alcohol (wine). I dont overdo it, and only drink at home.
My addiction though is people. I have to get them to like me. This is in direct conflict with my belief that I am unlikable and have no friends. I will often fixate on someone and though I am not a stalker, will manipulate until they like me. I may entice them with my cooking (if its a guy), bake cookies/cupcakes, volunteer help, flirt, create situations that were preplanned; talk to someone that I know will blab it to the person, etc. I am aware of all of these things. I also know that my need for people comes from being abandoned as a child.
My goal is to integrate my inner children, continue on my spiritual quest and learn to be a friend who does not over-do it. I hope that in the future God will grant me a loving relationship with someone. I hope and I try to help other people. So this forum has been very beneficial.
I am so glad to see you here. As an acoa myself I can struggle terribly with feeling safe and sharing - I am still very new here. I am hoping those fears will leave me. I find this place a wonderful sanctuary. Wishing you all the best on your recovery journey.
a member of the "forgotten five"
Dave
I hope I can figure out this site, LOL---sooo many steps and my leg is killing me---i think i got a pinch nerve-----Glad 2 C U here---I am gonna try and figure out how to work this site, LOL
I hope your leg gets to feeling better...
Dave
This forum is great, and I think you'll enjoy it - wonderful fellowship (and companionship) with fellow travelers.
Aho, and welcome!